It seems like most of you are very Lovey-Dovey and say “I love you” quite a bit. I think that’s great. Expressing love is important.

Like I mentioned earlier, Sean and I don’t say I love you very often. And that’s ok with me. When we do say it, it’s incredibly special and has so much meaning.

Regardless of not hearing or saying it much, I can always FEEL his love and I feel that’s most important.

Have you ever heard of the book The Five Love Languages? Everyone has a love language, which is basically the way they express and interpret love. Dr. Chapman, the author, says that people are usually drawn to those who speak a different love language than their own.

Of the countless ways we can show love to one another, five key categories, or five love languages, proved to be universal and comprehensive—everyone has a love language, and we all identify primarily with one of the five love languages: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch.

Words of Affirmation

Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time

In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts

Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Acts of Service

Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical Touch

This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

I believe these five love languages are completely applicable and true. I just took a test to see which love language I was.

It turns out I’m almost equal between Quality Time and Physical Touch.

This does not surprise me. I thrive on touch. I am very touchy feely and I like to be touching at all times. I love giving massages, I love putting my hand on his leg and I love if his hands are on me. I’ve always though touch might be my strongest sense. Luckily, Sean is great about giving me hugs, putting his hand on my lower back and keep contact with me. That’s what makes me feel loved.

I think that sitting down and talking with your partner about your respective love languages is important. You can often find yourself trying to love your partner the way YOU want to be loved. It’s harder to love them the way they need to be loved.

Onto more recap of this weekend .

Saturday was busy and fun! We had some people over for a pool party since we haven’t even been to the pool since I have lived at my place! We spent the afternoon snacking on fun food (like peanut butter cookies), laying by the pool and games in the pool.

The rest of the evening was spent cooking dinner. At around 5:30pm, I went upstairs to the apartment and went to town. I’ve never cooked for a group of people so this was really fun.

What was on the menu that night?

Can You Stay for Dinner’s Meatloaf Burgers, Pasta Salad, Salad, and Squash and Tomatoes.

Side note: You must check out her website. So many good recipes and great commentary about life.

I love burgers and lately I’ve been loving meatloaf. What a great idea combining the two.

Meatloaf Burgers

Makes 4 Big Patties

Ingredients:

1 lb lean ground beef
½ cup fresh bread crumbs
2 TBSP grated Parmesan cheese
1 TBSP Italian seasoning (just a blend of marjoram, thyme, rosemary, sage, oregano, and basil)
½ tsp ground black pepper
¼ tsp salt
3 TBSP ketchup
1 TBSP Dijon mustard
2 TBSP Worcestershire sauce

In a small bowl, combine dry ingredients: the fresh bread crumbs, Italian seasoning, salt, pepper, and parmesan cheese.
In another small bowl, combine the wet ingredients: the ketchup, Dijon mustard, and Worcestershire sauce.

Now pour dry ingredients and wet ingredients into the large bowl with the ground beef.

Mix with your hands until well combined. Be careful not to overwork the meat, or it may become tough.

Form into 4 patties and place on a baking sheet. Bake for 15 minutes at 400°.

This was Sean’s plate. I would never combine mustard and ketchup.

On mine, I had spinach leaves, tomato and no condiments. It was so flavorful you didn’t need any.

My guests loved it as well!

I even had a guy ask…

“Are you SURE this is lean ground beef? It tastes too good for that!”

That might be the best cooking compliment I’ve received! This recipe will definitely be going into the “must make again” folder. The burgers actually tasted better the next day .

What’s your love language? What’s your partners?

You can take the test here.

I’d venture to say that Sean is a combination of Physical Touch and Acts of Service. He always tells me he appreciates when I do things for him, so I think he definitely values that. He also does things for me and I think he expresses his love that way.

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I’ve lived in my new apartment with the boy for a month now. This was the first weekend he has actually been in town. He has been to the lake, been on a trip to Austin, and then we went to the lake once together as well.

I was anxious to spend a whole weekend relaxing with the boy which was exactly what we need.

There was no studying until Sunday…just fun times together.

Friday night got off to a rough start–I witnessed a hit and run accident at 55 mph. I am almost positive that it was a drunk driver. He almost hit me and then was going so fast that he hit the person in front of me. She pulled over and I pulled over to make sure she was ok because it looked pretty brutal. He pulled in looking like he was going to stop…but then he just veered out. Luckily, I got the SOB’s license tag number. He is goin down. I waited with the woman and her son until the police came so I could give my witness statement. I hope they find him and at least make him pay for those damages–you just don’t do that. Luckily, it was only a car that was damaged and not a human life. That kid does not need to be on the road though.

The rest of the night was more relaxing. Me and Sean curled up for Good Luck Chuck.

I’m a sucker for Dane Cook and thought the movie was really cute. I think Sean appreciated the movie because there were a lot of boobies. Doesn’t take much to please men.

While we were watching the movie, we munched on Julie’s Flourless Peanut Butter Cookies. I have wanted to try these for a VERY long time and I thought this weekend was the best time to try it.

It might be the easiest cookie recipe ever!

Flourless Peanut Butter Cookies

1 cup peanut butter
1 cup sugar
1 egg

Bake at 350 for 10 minutes and you’ve got really moist and delicious cookies!

As I was reading Julie’s blog, I saw that she made Ryan a cute little “I love you” message with the dough. It was so cute and I know I had to do something similar for Sean.

However, we aren’t the cutesy I love you couple. We are the “dang, you look good and I want to bone” kind of couple. HAHA! There is love, but we joke so much so I knew I had to write something different.

"U R Hot" pre bakeage

Sean got quite the kick out of it

In an effort to keep this post a little shorter, I’m going to end it here! I will talk about the rest of my weekend in another post–it involved a swim party, dinner with friends, and meatloaf burgers!

What’s your favorite kind of cookie??

If you are in a relationship, how often do you say I love you? Me and Sean really don’t say it much. We are definitely not the “I love you” at the end of every phone conversation. We have a cute little thing we do with text messages–when either of us are feeling the love, we send a simple green heart through text messages and we know what it means.

It actually took Sean about a year to say he loved me. I said it first at around 6 months, and he said thank you and I cried and it was so awkward, but he didn’t budge. I appreciated that he waited until he was ready and knew that he loved me to say it.

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