I have a pretty serious post here, but first things first.
I actually cooked a little tonight! Shocking. It has seemed like forever. We have a ton of leftovers so I have been making my way through homemade chicken noodle soup and chili.
I love me some leftovers, but there’s only so much you can handle.
I’ve had a bag of shrimp staring at me in the freezer for quite a while. I’m not a big seafood fan and shrimp fits in that category. If it’s spicy, fried, or garlicy I can handle it.
Enter some Shrimp Scampi.
Nothing like some buttery garlicy goodness.
Combine it with whole wheat pasta, a dash of lemon juice, shredded parmesan and you’ve got a nice meals.
You can see the recipe here on my recipe page if you are interested.
It was a nice hearty meal. I did not have one lick of veggies today. Oops. Aw well. I made better choices than I have been lately, so I’m happy.
Today was capped off with a nice 3.36 mile run…the first run of my half marathon training. It feels good!
Around Thanksgiving, my worst blogging nightmare came true. I briefly mentioned it on the blog at that time, but I want to go into more detail now.
I was checking out my stats and I noticed that I had a lot of clicks from a website I wasn’t familiar with. It got me curious, so I clicked to see what the site was.
It was a men’s forum dedicated to talks of lifting, powerlifting, health and various men’s issues. One of the posters had linked one of my posts that spoke about my past issues with disordered eating, body image struggles, etc and it highlighted how far I’ve come in my journey.
It started off innocent enough. The original poster just wanted to praise my newfound carefree attitude in regards to health and my body.
It quickly turned to something that made me uncomfortable. They started to take pictures of me off my blog and discussed them in a vulgar and sexual manner. Ya know…talks of masturbating to my pictures later, discussion of my breasts, body etc.
I tweeted about it and the posters found out about it. They knew it made me uncomfortable and they thought it was funny. The sexual talk soon turned mean and hurtful.
They called me a dumb cunt…”cute, but dumb cunt” was their wording. Attention Whore. Crazy.
Then, they started stealing pictures of me and Sean. I was “fucking a douchebag.” They called me “white trash, 3 times removed.” They took pictures of friends and called them names.
I pretty much read page after page wanting it to be over. And there was nothing I could do. Their admin wouldn’t take the thread down. I just had to sit and watch hoping it would go away.
I always knew my blog was completely public. But, in this community, you get a real false sense of security. There are so many amazing women here and we start to think we are only communicating with them. It’s easy to think that (even though we KNOW that’s not true). They made fun of how I freaked out about it. They said I must not know how the Internet worked.
To be honest, I felt ashamed, dumb, and scared. Naive.
I really wanted to quit blogging. I wanted it to stop. I wanted them to forget about me. I almost took my blog down temporarily. I got encouragement from some friends to just keep going. Thankfully, it eventually did stop. Those few days were hard though. It’s not fun to see yourself being talked about like that. I felt like the joy of blogging was taken from me. I was scared to post anything for a few weeks.
I wanted to tell this story now as a warning.
Ladies, your blog is public. Anyone can see it. You have absolutely no idea who is reading it. Really think what you are putting on the blog. Do not put pictures of inside your home, don’t give too much detail about your daily routine. Don’t put too revealing photos of yourself here.
Use your common sense and judgement.
As hard as that week was, those men on that forum taught me a huge lesson. It was quite an eye-opener. I really question what goes on my blog now. I think harder about what I post and the pictures I show my readers.
Blogging is a beautiful thing. It’s allowed me to meet some wonderful women who have truly become FRIENDS. It also can have a scary side.
Thankfully, the first outweighs the others.
What do you think about blogging safety?
Have you ever had a scary situation because of blogging?
What are some things that you will not put on your blog?
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Im so sorry that happened to you. I try not to put identifying information – where I live exactly, where I work, stuff like that. I also don’t usually put my last name, even though it’s pretty easy to figure out.
I had seen your tweets about this and this is even more awful than you could have described through twitter. I am so sorry for what you went through, but I hope it teaches all of us a very important lesson. Thank you for sharing this. I know I will be more careful.
This is a warning to everyone, thank you so much for posting this, I know it must’ve been horrible for you at the time
I’m glad it’s over and I’m so glad that you didn’t stop blogging because of it.
That is horrible. I wish things like this didnt happen, but sadly, they do. All the time.
I try to be careful with everything I post. Im sure I have my moments where I should have been more careful, but I do try. I never, ever say what city I live in, I say Vancouver, which is a good distance away. Plus, I try never to show pictures that would be a giveaway for where I live. And my last name, that I will NEVER give out on the blog. Its far too uncommon. But Ive never thought too hard about pictures. This is a really good reminder, because you`re right. We dont know who`s reading.
Ugh, I still feel for you, even if it was last year that it happened. I did NOT know they said those types of comments though
Great reminder. I don’t post pictures for that specific reason or say where I work, where I’m going, etc. I need to be more mindful of when I go on vacation though, you never know who’s reading.
That is so gross. It’s horrible to see the truths of what people do online.
But I’m so thankful you’re still here. I’m sure all your readers appreciate your decision to stay
Ouch, I’m really sorry that happened to you. While I’ve been careful not to reveal too much about where I live it never occurred to me that someone could hurt me without even coming near me. Thanks for the eye opener, at least your experience has served as a warning to others.
That’s exactly why I wanted to post this and tell the story. There are many ways to be hurt from your blog. While we can’t stop everything from happening, we can do our best to be careful and more mindful of what we post.
I rem when that happened to you. For similiar reasons and worries, thats why I don’t really put pics on the blog or share too much “personal” personal stuff. You just never know!
This totally bums me out that some people have to constantly be attacking somebody else in some form or fashion. Stay positive.. there are people out here enjoying the blog and glad to hear you aren’t removing it.
awwww babe, im glad you made it through that. that is terrible!
matthew always tells me that he’s worried someone would physically stalk me, i think about it but generally im not worried about it. i will definitely be more careful though.
hope you’re doing okay!!
Wow, that’s terrible. I remember you talking about it at the time, but I didn’t realize it was to that extent. I’m so sorry that had to happen.
This is a good reminder though. I know I posted something I questioned a bit today, and I just deleted the post. To be honest, I haven’t been as into my blog lately, at least not in the food and fitness genre, so I haven’t been posting as much. I’ve been thinking twice about posting personal pictures and stuff and will definitely continue to be mindful of it!
This just breaks my heart. And makes me mad. And it’s really unfair. Lisa, you are such a beautiful person inside and out and in no way did you deserve what happened to you.
You are a brave girl and a tough cookie. I’m glad that you came out of this stronger and wiser and that you exposed the dangers of being too open. I try not to mention when I leave town and other personal information. Thank you for sharing your story to protect others.
This is so awful. I do think about what I am putting on my blog and ANYONE can see it. It is really had when you put your life out for people to judge. I enjoy reading your blog and I am glad you have it up!
Stay strong
Lisa, I am so sorry for what you had to go through. It’s definitely a wake up call for all of us. Keep your head up girl.
Thank you for sharing your story. As a result of the things that have happened to you I have thought long and hard about the having my kids names and other personal information on my blog. I will definitely be cognizant of the the information I disclose in such a public forum.
Thank you again for sharing your story!
This is so horrible… were you succesful in getting them to remove everything? I know this would probably be a super long annoying process, but is there a way to “sue” them (I don’t think that’s the right term but you know what I mean…) or “report” term?
You are so strong. Thank you for publishing this story…
You are so wise for sharing this, thank you! We tend to forget about the CRUDE and DISRESPECTFUL people out there that can see our blog. When you mentioned this before, I became a lot more aware of what to post and what not to post. I am so glad you continued to blog and it definitely made you stronger as a woman, a blogger, and a friend. Cheers to you!
LC
Very good reminder points about blogging. It sucks that there are just those types out there in the world. It’s hard to feel safe period, blogging or not.
That’s horrible, and I get angered by how many people out there are crazy or gross. I’m glad you’ve reminded us how careful we all must be…the ways people used you are things I’ve never really thought about before, and make me rethink what to post.
It’s easy to get comfortable with blogging and what we share, since we often just think of our readers as friends.
Oh my gosh, Lisa. That is absolutely horrible, and I’m so sorry you had to go through that! Thank you so much for sharing your story. There are some blogs I’ve come across where young woman take progress pics (?) of themselves that I can definitely see being used in this same way. I try to be careful of the information I post, but I probably should be more so. Thanks for sharing this with us, and hopefully you never, EVER have to go through this again.
That is frightening…and horrible to go through too. I don’t always think about what I put on my blog, but I should from now on. My boyfriend always reminds me that the blog is public, so I am glad that I have him to help me keep my security a little bit. I am glad that you kept the blog, though, and you can reach out to others and help/spread prevention awareness.
Thank you for sharing more detail about this story. It really is so scary that people can take what you write and what pictures you post and manipulate it in any way they want. I try not to put too revealing of photos up but sometimes I do share too much. This is making me think.
I’m so sorry! that is horrifying. but….thank you for talking about this because I’m going to be reaaaaally careful about what I post. :/
ugh i remember when this happened to you and its so terribe.I cannot believe there are people out there nasty enough to bash someone they don’t even KNOW! mostly due to insecurities i am sure, but thats not the point…its just plain wrong and mean.
this is the exact reason I never post about my job, where i work, exactly where I live and rarely pics of myself (once in a while) I like to keep my private life private nad just share tips about healthy eating, recipes, workouts etc!
So true, sometimes we do forget that just about anyone can access what we write about. I’m definitely getting flack from my post on Monday. I remember when you wrote about this the first time, and that’s awful that they said such horrible things about you and trashed you and made you feel bad. I hope you realize that none of it is true. You are wonderful and amazing!
ugh, this incident still horrifies me. I couldn’t believe it when you told me about it in OKC. I’m SO sorry you had to go through that. I would have FREAKED out and would have taken my blog down, but that would just let the sickos win. You’re brave to stick it out. Thanks for the reminder to be safe!
I never put pictures of the front of my house or too many of the inside. I also never share the name of the company I work for or share details when we’ll be out of town.
Ugh, people can be such jerks. I’m glad you overcame it and are still blogging!
Oh my goodness, this makes me furious. It infuriates me that those people would do something so awful. I cannot describe how angry it makes me to know there are those out there willing to prey on the innocent. You always hear about it, but when it hits so close to home… well that’s just awful. Really truly horrific. I am so sorry you’ve had to deal with this. It breaks my heart for you.
I’m pretty careful about what I post on our blog (my previous blog had our last name all over which is one reason I made a new one) and even on Facebook. While it’s true that my FB is really quite protected, I never know which of my friends might leave their FB signed in somewhere and leave access to all my information and photos, etc available to a stranger. Thank you for posting this. This is a very real reminder that we need to hear loud and clear.
I remember when you posted about that a while back. Glad you pulled through it and continued blogging. I can’t imagine sitting there reading all of those nasty comments, so I really feel for you. You are smart though and no better than to take any of that personally. None of the know you, so to hell with them.
To answer your question, I wouldn’t share my address or where I work or anything like that. I think general info is ok, but certainly nothing detailed! You just never know what crazy person could be reading your blog just WAITING for that type of info. Too many creeps out there!
Thanks for sharing, Lisa. I do try to keep this sort of thing in mind when I post. I don’t post pictures of my kids or give their names. I generally don’t even have my name on my blog, although I imagine you could do some googling and figure it out? I don’t get too personal and I don’t post about specific things I’m dealing with at school because as a student in a professional college, I fear that someone from school (not my friends) might stumble across it. There are cases I’ve read about where students are reprimanded or censured for what administrators deem to be “unprofessional” comments in their blogs and I don’t want to be one of those stories, or deal with academic penalties.
Glad you kept blogging!
It sounds like it was a valuable lesson for you and now for us.
Awww…this is so sad. I was just talking to Lo and Behold about my starting a blog, and now, I am a little bit nervous. I’m sure though if I follow your advice, it will be okay. I’m proud of you for sharing your story, and happy you were able to start blogging again!
I’m really glad it has blown over. That was terrible.
I try to put only pictures of myself that I would willingly share with the world, such as photos I’d put on facebook. I’ve never been much into pictures of just myself so luckily I don’t have a lot of those floating around. I have started to be more careful about disclosing my location though. That can be really dangerous.
I hope nothing like this ever happens to you or any of us again! People should just be NICE.
I remember reading about this back in November, and again, I’m so sorry it happened. Obviously its a “worst case scenario”, but it couldn’t have happened to a kinder, sweeter, less ceserving girl.
Thank you for being brave enough to talk about this! I don’t post many photos of myself and I don’t post photos of my friends or family unless they know about the blog and give me the okay. Its crazy out there!
Much love beautiful girl!
I’m so happy you didn’t let this get the best of you! I can’t believe some people can act this way, regardless if it’s online (as they say) or not.
You bring up some very good points, so many different ways you can be attacked! I try to be cautious with my blog. I don’t use my full first name (it’s not a common name), but that’s mainly so I’m not found in job searches.
I wanted to say that I really enjoy reading your blog and I’m so glad you decided to keep blogging, even through a situation such as that. Some people can be so cruel hearted for no good reason at all, but it shows your dedication and strength because if I went through that I wouldn’t have dealt with it as well as you did.
Oh my gosh. Wow. So sorry that that happened to you…
But thank you for sharing. The warning is very much accepted/appreciated.
I’m confused as to how/why the photos of you turned into a sexual discussion of sorts. That’s bizarre. But I guess that’s the internet for ya.
On a light note, that shrimp scampi looks unreal!!
Oh my gosh! I remember you making a comment about this, but didn’t realize how bad it truly was. I’m so sorry you had to go through that! Thank you for posting the reminder to us all. I try to keep detailed facts off my blog. Earlier I wanted to take a picture of how high the snow was compared to my car and remembered not to show my license plate or describe which car was mine. It’s so unfortunate that things have to be this way. I’m glad that you pushed through the negativity and continued to blog. Reading about you has been such an inspiration to me. {{HUGS}}, girly!
That is terrible! I am sorry you went through that but at least you can be a lesson to others.
I had a crazy ex boyfriend who created a dating profile of me using all my information and pictures from Facebook. I had all kinds of boys at OU I would run into who thought I was the girl they were talking to online. It created for some scary run ins.
Hopefully more girls will be aware of what they put on the internet and protect themselves.
Good post!
This is a terrible thing! Actually to me the worst part is that it started from posts that you should be proud of and not ashamed and that as you say their initial article was more of a praise than anything else. Somehow the thread got out of control and the focus shifted from your accomplishments to your physical appearance! I am happy that you stuck through it though ! Really proud of you girl!
I’m very sorry this happened to you. And I believe the admin should take things down. For certain.
I know that a reason I don’t have a ton of followers is because I’m not that personal and don’t share too too much though at times I really want to. Or I’d love to show progress pics of weight loss, but I fear that would be highlighting my “body” too much.
It’s a tough line to toe, and we all make ourselves vulnerable to this possibility.
The more we share, the more we reap from the blogging community but we also have to face the possible backlash too. If we don’t swing the pendulum as far (in terms of sharing) we reap neither the benefits or the backlash.
GAH! Just wrote a huge comment and it didn’t post.
The gist of it is that I’m very sorry you have to go through this. I have had to take a pretty conservative stand on what I want to post because I can’t deal with the possibility of backlash emotionally or professionally.
While we may reap more benefits by great sharing, we also make ourselves more susceptible to things like this.
Don’t let this deter you from blogging!
Oh no!! I’m so sorry you had to deal with that! That is truly a nightmare. I haven’t had anything close to that happening, but my parents/husband are always quick to remind me not to share so much info on my blog. Things like schedules, workout locations, etc never make it on my blog because of privacy. Thanks for the reminder to be extra careful!
I’m so sorry you had to go through that, but it teaches us all an important lesson. I should probably be much more careful about details of my life. But just like drinking and driving, people tend to think they are invincible until something bad happens.
I’m so sorry this happened to you! That is awful, but it definitely makes me think a lot more about what I post. Thank you for addressing this!
Wow that is awful. It saddens me that people like that are actually out there, probably even seemingly normal people who only would write those mean things from behind the comfort of a computer screen. I’m glad you shared your story and have continued blogging! You blog positively influences so many more people than that insensitive story ever will.
It’s kind of pathetic that a so called power lifting forum has nothing better to do than make fun of some random person. Sad, really. That’s why I shy away from forums now, they can get so negative and mean spirited. I’m sorry you had to experience that. At least you learned something valuable and could pass it to us.
I love you and I love you blog!
I still think about that whole situation. I definitely second guessed what I was posting at times. Thanks for the reminder! And the scampi looks sooo good.
So sorry you had to go through this, but thanks for sharing your advice.
Omg that’s disgusting and just made me so mad! How dare people do that.
I’m so glad you decided not to let those losers think they won. Your blog is amazing and inspiring. Thank you for the warning though!
I’m sorry this happened to you. I don’t post pics like that for this very reason. I worry about girls who post pics of themselves in short shorts and sports bras or bikinis. They don’t realize that men can take these pics and do what they please. It’s scary!
I am so SO sorry that you had to go through that. Remember that they were showing THEIR issues, not yours. They are the bad guy in this scenario. Love you!
Omg Lisa, I CANNOT believe this happened.
What total **sholes! They are the DUMB ones! I would be LIVID. But, this is a good reminder as to what really goes out in the real world. Sometimes its easy to forgot that anyone can read what you write, say or do…and that’s kind of scary. I know my Dad always reminds me to be careful what I post on my blog- saying exactly what you said- you never know who’s reading.
I hope you are doing better! Love you xoxo
ugggh this was the worst. I’m so happy you came through it, and thank you for sharing this experience. I think it is very eye opening and I know it helped me to think more about the fact that a blog is public and everything you put up is at risk for ending up in the wrong hands. You’re a strong lady!
That is just awful Lisa! I remember you telling is about that as well! Your awesome for sticking it out. I woulld have felt like throwing up after I read that if it happened to me!- Like that sick pit in your stomach. Ugh.
Thanks for the warning too. I see a couple bloggers who go crazy with info. It scares me!
As much as I’d like to think this is JUST my litte community of friends we have to realize that creepers, rapists, and cruel people are out there.
Wow, that is really scary – I’m so sorry that happened! I generally try to not share too much information, but there are times I click “post” and then think, should I have just shared that? This is a good warning, and I appreciate that you were willing to share your story. And good for you for sticking with your blog and not letting them win!
Girl, my heart just broke for you reading this. How frightening/horrifying/overwhelming. Keep your head up. You are so beautiful and such an inspiration to us all!
Lisa, my heart broke reading this post… I can only imagine how scary this experience was for you! It definitely took a lot of strength on your part to keep blogging–to not let them “win.” Your resilience is admirable!
I often think about blog security, and try to be mindful of the things I post. I’ve probably shared too much, and will be extra careful from here on out. Thanks so much for the warning. xoxo
Ugh, that’s awful!! I’m VERY careful about what I blog. I don’t ever give the city I live in, my last name, and I won’t even take pics around town that could be traced. It’s a dangerous world out there and blogging could very easily allow that danger into the safety of my home. That’s a risk I’m not willing to take… It really is too bad that we have to be so careful though. And it’s horrible that you had to go through what you did!
I am so sorry that you had to go through all of this! It’s terrible! Please know that none of what was said was true! You are a beautiful person and such an inspiration to all who follow your blog. I make sure to not release too much personal information about myself. I don’t post anything about where I live, my last name, etc. It’s too risky and scary.
yikes! so true…we give out soo much info without even thinking on all these ‘social’ media outlets!
thank you sooo much for this freaky reminder. i remember back when you first found out about it, but this is truly a nightmare.
I’m so sorry that this happened to you! It’s really scary…and sad…people can be awful sometimes…it’s almost worse when it’s strangers and they have no reason to be so mean.
I was actually really hesitant to start a blog because of the possibility of something like this happening. I have a few pictures of myself (with my boyfriend), but I’m really careful about the pictures I put up…and how much I reveal about my location etc.
I’m glad you decided to stay with us! You really are an inspiration…stay strong, lady!
Like I told u when this all went down, you have more people that love and support u than the other way around. The internet is not a bubble, and it sucks we have to learn that the hard way. I’m so glad u didnt let it stop u from blogging. I’m here, always. you know what to do if you need a shoulder or screen to cry on.
Wow. I am so sorry you went through this. My hubby knows the public internet world and has had several talks with me on what I can and can’t put on the blog. But that is definitely scary!!!
I’m so sorry, what a terrible experience. Thank you for sharing and bringing this issue to light so we can all be a bit more aware of our environment. And, I know I’m glad to hear you are still blogging…we’d miss you!
Wow. I’m just hating this situation for you – just AWFUL that you had to deal with this and the horrible, stupid things they said about you. I hope you’re okay!! Still in disbelief – people are such assholes. So glad you’re okay and thank you for sharing and reminding us all to be safe.
My husband wants to know if you’ve sent a DMCA take-down notice to the web master. It requires them to take it down and then give notice to whoever posted it that you issued that notice for them to take it down. He says people rarely challenge them – they just take it down. Anywho – wanted to pass that along!
hmmm I had never heard of that. How do you go about doing that?
Wow, Lisa, I am so sorry this happened to you! I think this post has a great lesson to put out there for all of us. I have never shown my face on my blog or full name mostly because of the personal issues I discuss, but I always make sure never to put down an exact location where I am or any definite details about where I volunteer, etc because of that type of thing. I am glad to still be able to read your blog.
Apparently – the main thing is photos – they used your photos without your permission = big problem. I found a bunch of stuff but this is a great site with a simple sample letter you could copy/paste with your info:
http://rising.blackstar.com/how-to-send-a-dmca-takedown-notice.html
Here is another site – they make it seem simple, but will probably take at least 30 minutes.
http://www.google.com/dmca.html
Best of luck, girl!
Thank you!!
I’m so sorry that this happened to you. It’s really awful. Glad you were brave enough to stand up to people – and share this story.
I once figured out where a blogger lived…and she often posted her ‘routine’ like that time she left in the morning and everything. scary. I’ve also seen some semi-nude pics that people put up – you should feel free to flaunt your body – but anyone can take those pics from you. it’s a sad reality of the internet
That sounds pretty traumatic. I am so sorry that happened to you. I was reading in guilt from you know…but that is really sick that a group of men would write such vulgar things about you. That makes me so upset because you are and have one of the most positive blogs and are SUCH an inspiration to women. Please stay strong. This shows just how powerful you are. I support you 100%. <3
I’m so sorry to hear this happened to you
You are so sweet and honest and NO ONE should have to go through that. Thank you for sharing this warning- I will never forget it!!
Glad you read it and feel a bit more aware! I’m glad I went through it too…I’m also glad that was the worst that happened!
Whoa Lisa…that is freaking scary and I am so sorry you had to endure that. To be honest, that is one of my biggest fears with having a public blog. I have one that I stopped writing in a long time ago that I always kept private (allowing only invited readers). I’m seriously thinking of making my current blog private, too. In the beginning it started out light-hearted with pictures of food, talks about my workouts, etc. Now I have lots of pictures of Chloe on my site, my husband, I talk about personal issues – I’m not so sure I want the rest of the world to access that stuff.
I’m so glad you put this out there – thank you…I’m probably going to make my blog private now – you just never know!
Thanks again..
If you do make it private, please let me still read it. I’d miss you too much if I couldn’t
Gosh!! I had no idea this happened to you since I just joined the blog world. I did however just post something similar to this so my parents could read it and know I was aware of the scary things that can happen with a blog. i’m so glad others are aware as well…
I actually have been writing a post VERY similar to this about my story, but I haven’t posted it yet. I’m so sorry that happened to you, and you’re right, I imagine our blogging world to be that, OUR blogging world. Our own little bubble. But sadly, it’s not. After what happened to me it’s made me consider taking down my blog and stop writing. And it made me incredibly sad, and unhappy, but SAFETY first. And after reading your story I’ve made up my mind to go through old posts and take down pictures/information that could result in anyone knowing who I am.
I’m so sorry this happened to you Lisa. You’re such a wonderful, and beautiful person. Love you & your blog and I’m so happy you kept blogging
Sweetie, I am so sorry you had to deal with this. I think you may know a wee bit of my personal problems with a whack-job stalker here in Chicago- because of him and his obsessive actions, I had to get involved with the police and attorneys, change my phone numbers, put in a new security system, and totally change my approach to everything social media- blogging, video, twitter, facebook etc. Some people asked why I continued to be involved in such spaces. My answer is that the good outweighs the bad- the people and the opportunities that have changed my life for the better~ I wouldn’t change a thing. BUT I am very careful about protecting myself and my family as much as I can. Knowledge is power.
And as for the moron Neanderthal men on the other blog, consider the source…..Good Lord. A bunch of men sitting around talking about women they WISH they could score with, instead of going out on a real date. #EPIC #Fail
I don’t know how you do it. Your situation was on a scale much much bigger than I am. I chose to keep doing this for the same reasons you did. The good outweighs the bad.
Thank you.
I am soooo sorry Lisa that it’s gone this far. I remember our email exchange back in Nov and the things we discussed and you know I completely understand what you are going through. And I am so very, very sorry you have had to live this living hell. No one deserves this! My heart breaks for you b/c I can only imagine what your life must have been like the past few months.
Please know that in your strength of sharing your story, you are helping other women. It took major guts to come forward with this, for fear of even more backlash no doubt, but the world thanks you for being brave
Our email exchange back in November was invaluable to me. For the support and just knowing I wasn’t alone in this made it a lot easier. I’m glad you are still around as well. So far, I have not seen any backlash and I hope it stays that way.
<3 you.
That is terrible! I can’t believe their admin wouldn’t do anything about it. I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. It takes an incredibly strong woman to go through that sort of trauma and not back down. I am so glad that you kept your blog. It is easy to forget about the “others” out there that have access to your blog when you feel like it’s just a casual conversation with your girls. Wow, thank you so much for the reminder! I will definitely be thinking about things included in my posts more before publishing.
Just wandered over for a visit (I’m a fellow busy student and all that jazz…). Read this and swallowed. Swallowed my urge to scream in revolt of their comments and behavior. That is inexcusable. I’m still shaking my head.
But I’m also impressed. In you. You kept writing. The worst had happened, and guess what? You didn’t let it scare you away. That takes some major cajones….cajones that I wish I could say that I have.
You are above them and you proved it (not that you needed to!).
I very much admire how you handled this
Back tracking here and trying to catch up on older posts….
I just have to say that this post scares the shiznit out of me. I thought long and hard about putting pictures of my children up on my blog and I think after reading this, I am taking all pics of my kids and boyfriend off my blog!!
I am so sorry this had to happen to you but THANK YOU x 1,000,000 for the warning and the heads up!!!
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Lisa – I had no idea about this!! How does this affect your blogging now though?? It seems your still very honest and upfront and make “no bones” about it….do you refrain from posting personal feelings or the ‘real ‘ you , serious issues at times??
OR do you mostly mean as in posting certain pictures, locations, etc.??
It affected my blogging greatly after for awhile–I was scared of writing anything because I knew they were reading. basically, i waited until the thread at the forum died down to start posting as I usually do. I still post all of the same (and true) feelings, just refrain from posting certain pictures, locations, etc.
Hi Lisa, I found your blog from Peanut Butter Fingers. I’m so sorry that happened to you! That is so scary and it took a lot of courage for you to continue writing. I’m a newbie blogger and runner and have been wondering a lot about whether or not to blur out the numbers on race bibs when posting pics. I’ve noticed some people do and some people don’t. Do you have any thoughts or advice on that?
Hi Lisa. I know this is an older post. But curious how you can tell who is “clicking” on your website? I didn’t know you could do that. I want to start my own food blog in the near future, so that ability would be helpful to know about. Thanks for the information above. Very sorry you had to go thru it though. There is always someone out there to ruin something good!!
In your stats on wordpress, you can see “referring sites” or sites that people click on to get to your site!
I’m so sorry you had to go through that! I keep my last name off of my blog, and don’t mention the exact city that I live in. I also don’t mention my work schedule, or where I work, for that matter. With that being said, I’m sure those things are fairly easy to find with the magic of the internet, and I still try to be extra cautious. Stories like yours make me nervous though..I’m going to start being even more careful!
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