This is a long post. You have fair warning.
I’ve been hiding something from my blog.
Something big in my life.
I am always completely honest on my blog. Transparent in fact. I’m not afraid of being honest and love sharing details of my life. I get wonderful advice from my readers. In the process of sharing, I hope that my words and life situations help others get through similiar problems.
After my most honest posts, I get emails from readers who said my words touched them. There is nothing better than that. Those simple emails spur me on to continue to write open and honest posts.
Until this one. I’ve been holding back.
I recently watched an episode of Sex and the City. Carrie was afraid to tell her friends that she was seeing Big again in fear of their judgements.
That’s exactly how I feel. At times, I am afraid of my readers judgements….as stupid and silly as that is.
Friends in my life are different. They know the day in day out happenings. They understand where I am coming from.I don’t share everything on my blog. There are major holes in my life and things that I have not discussed. Before I say anything, I ask that you trust me in my decisions. I am the happiest I have been in a long time.
This happiness stems from many different sources:
- My relationship with God is stronger than it’s ever been. And not in a religion churchy-way. In fact, I hate religion but love God. That’s a whole other post.
- I have finally started Nursing School. I get such a high from doing something that makes me happy. It’s like all the hard work over the past two years has culminated into this moment. It’s a wonderful feeling.
- I’m connecting with friends (here and afar) more than I have in a long time. I feel more open, relaxed, and happy. Those three things make for great friendships and fun.
- My self-image is at an all-time high. Sure, my body is not perfect. It’s much heavier than it used to be. None of that matters. I’m healthy and feel better than I ever have.
- and for the last thing…I am back together with Sean.
Yes, you heard right.
I am back together with Sean.
I know most of you figured as much, but I thought I should come out and say it. This relationship is adding so much to my life and I am happy.
Let’s back up.
As you know, two months after we broke up, Sean tried to get me back. There was pleading, crying, and statements promising that he had changed. Let me tell you…he was a mess at this point. He had dropped about 15 lbs. He wasn’t eating like he should. He just seemed lost with life in this transition phase.
He said that one night, it hit him. It was like God and slapped him upside the head and told him, “what are you doing with your life?” “What do you want?” “Why are you such an idiot?” “Get your life together.”
He just pissed me off with that. I thought, why now? It’s too late. I am over it and don’t want to go back. I told him not to talk to me, and he respected that.
He didn’t go down without a fight though: there were flowers sent with the Five Love Languages quiz that he never took.
I spent time reflecting on what he had said. I thought about his promises of change. It hit me. If he just wanted me back, he would’ve said all of these things the minute we moved out. He didn’t. He waited until he knew. He spent the time apart to reflect on his life and what he wanted.
He made changes during that time. He got his own place and became a much more responsible adult. All while we weren’t speaking. He did it for himself, and not for me. I was impressed.
I decided I wanted to become friends.
You know that we had breakfast together a while ago and were working on becoming friends. We would walk the dogs once a week and sit by the lake and simply talk. We talked about life, faith, and what we wanted. We talked about what we did wrong. We talked like we never had.
I opened up about things he did that had hurt me. I opened up about my past eating issues…and realized that I had never trusted him enough to let him in.
He opened up to me about what held him back in our past relationship. He finally allowed me to understand why. More importantly, he was ready to let go of those reasons and move forward.
I was careful not to get sucked in and simply took our new relationship on a day to day basis. However, he kept impressing. He impressed me with his general openness. He even had a different energy. I can’t quite explain it and realize you probably won’t understand.
He began to take time with the things I am interested in. He begged me to let him come watch and support me during my half marathon and I finally agreed. He spent three hours with my mother in freezing cold rain to cheer me on. Even better, he was genuinely happy to be there. I’ve never seen him so happy and relaxed.
There were mixed tapes, surprise cupcakes at my work on my last day, and sweet sticky notes left around my apartment. He even surprised me with playoff tickets to the Thunder. That was something he never would’ve considered doing in the past. He didn’t like basketball…and wouldn’t do things that I enjoyed. However, this time around, it seemed like it was no big deal. We went to the game and he cheered every moment of it. He jumped up and down with me and gave high fives. It was everything I had ever wanted with him.
Before I knew it, he had proved himself to me. I couldn’t keep holding back.
Pride kept me from going back for a long time. I made SUCH a big deal about the breakup and how strong I was to my friends and on this blog. I was an independent woman. I stood up for myself and followed my gut. I did what was right. I wasn’t going back. Or so I thought.
You see…when I broke up with him, it wasn’t in hopes that he would change, see the errors of his ways, and we’d get back together. I broke up with him because I was done. I had already tried to get him to see the error of his ways before I broke up with him. It didn’t work. When I was done, I was done. I moved forward because that’s all we can do in life. I was ready to meet new people and explore the world without him.
Life, and God, has a way of surprising us and derailing our plans.
I never in a million years imagined that he would come back and treat me the way I always wanted to be treated by him. And better yet, it’s not an act.
We have been working on our relationship by being open and supportive. We wrote a list of 20 things we loved about each other over the course of a week and we read them to each other one night. We do date night once a week and we take turns planning these nights out.
Everything I always loved him about him is still there, but now in addition to those things, I respect him. I respect him for the man he has become and the way he is with me.
I think that the breakup was the best thing to happen for both of us. I have documented the break-up up, down, and sideways on this blog. It allowed me to break out of something that wasn’t good for me. It forced me to take my life under control. It gave me a lot of self respect. Little did I know, that it was the best thing that ever happened to him. He needed it as well.
I’m incredibly blessed in my life. I did something scary. I took a chance and knew that no matter what happened, everything would be ok. I thought that I would be single and loving it. I thought I could possibly meet someone new and that he would be the man of my dreams. I never thought that Sean would turn out to be that man.
Life surprises me all the time. I am just along for the ride.
My mother wrote me a letter during my break-up and said these wise words..
“Don’t give up on the past, don’t box yourself in the present, and most certainly look into the possibilities of the future. Take the words “never” and “always” out of your vocabulary. Don’t worry and just live. Play and love with all you can.”
Her words are exactly what I’ve learned through this experience.
Never say never and remember that things aren’t “always.” Cherish life and open yourself up to all the possibilities it may bring.
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Lisa,
Do NOT worry about what your readers think in regards to this. Only you, deep down in your heart, know that this is right. If people chose not to be able to see that, or even feel it emanating from your writing then screw them! Be happy. Be in love. Follow your heart and soul instead of your mind. Congrats!
I’m one reader he is overjoyed for you!
<3 Nikki
Thank you Nikki!!
I love being the first commenter. I am proud of you and Sean. You can both come a long way. All you readers should know that Lisa has a different energy too and as a mom, I can now see a future with Lisa and Sean because they have given 100% of the emotional issues to eachother for love and safe keeping. I am so happy for both of them.
Girl- this is beautiful. I know exactly what you are saying. Your heart has been in the right place the entire time. You are the closest to God you have ever been- and He is guiding your heart. He will not guide you the wrong way. Yeah, you may have some detours, but He is holding your hand. If people want to talk about you or give you crap for getting back together with sean, they simply arent trusting that God is in control. You only need God’s approval, nobody elses.. and thats a hard lesson to learn!!! (ive been TRULY learning that lately) Anyway, your heart is wide open and so real! I love it. You keep clinging onto the Lord and remember and trust that HE IS FAITHFUL! His plans are way better than ours. Just take it one day at a time and one tiny step at a time, He will never let go! I love you girl
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Thanks for the words of encouragement! oh and bc of you–i plan on reading chapter 18 of purpose driven life. its been sitting on my shelf so may as well dive in!
If you are happy and confident in your decision, then that is all that matters!! So happy for you and your relationship with this ‘new’ man. Good for him for realizing what he woul have been giving up. Don’t worry about what others have to say and just enjoy all of this
Only you can know what is best for you and how he has truly changed. Knowing you were so strong after the breakup shows that you made the right decision and are not going back in blinded. I am happy you are happy:)
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Sometimes what it takes for people to realize what they have is to LOSE it. Time, space, growing, all those are good things. Who cares if people are going to judge you for getting back together? Maybe you guys are meant to be and just needed some space? Who knows! Only you and Sean know.
I do hope you keep your apartment for awhile and not jump into living together too soon though.
That’s the plan
Love you SO Much for this hun. I’m so glad things worked out the way they did and from the photos you just look SO happy and tha tmakes me so happy for you!
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Lisa, I’ve been a sometimes lurker for awhile, but I’ve followed your blog through the breakup and I was so impressed with your strength. Now, I’m even more impressed with your openness in letting someone back in. I’m glad you’re doing what’s right for you, because I believe that sometimes we have to let the ones we love go in order to realize how much we want to be with them. This post really struck a chord with me and I applaud your honesty in writing it
thank you gabriela. I am big time lurker of your blog so you commenting is a very nice surprise. and I agree with you–letting it go sometimes, allowing for space and growth, is one way to know what you really want.
i am so glad you shared this. Even though we had talked before, now I know the full story. You are so wise Lisa and God has his hand in this.
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If you’re happy, we’re happy. Breakups can mean new beginnings for couples.
Miss you angela!
This is beautiful. Beautiful in how you approached this entire situation. Beautiful in how much stronger and more self-respected you are today than you were then. Beautiful in that you truly never thought there would be a second chance between you two but lo and behold, it is happening, and it seems like it’s happening just the way it should. I am so glad that things are turning around as they are – that Sean has learned an incredible amount out of this and that you are happy and ready for whatever lies ahead. Thank you for being honest – it’s what I love most about your blog.
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I’m such a lurker, but I don’t generally comment but to h-e-double hockey sticks what other people think. What REALLY matters is how you feel. If you’re happy, then be happy. Heck, I’m happy for you and I don’t even know you. Congrats and keep on following your heart.
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EXACLTY!!
Pretty sure i cried this whole post.. LOL!!! So happy to see you happy finally. I’m really glad that Sean turned into the man you’ve always wanted.. It was always in him he was just fighting it. Love you!!
love you marlo!
So happy for you!! I’m so, so glad that he has become everything you want and deserve.
This post is beautifully written. You seem very happy, and that’s really all that matters!
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Lisa, I was outside by my pool and I literally had to removie myself from my chair to come inside and comment on this post. I began reading your blog because of Julie at Peanut Butter Fingers. She linked to your blog right after you and Sean broke up while I was going through the same exact thing at the same exact time. I had broken up with my boyfriend (his name is Shawn, too LOL) of three years and felt lost. My story is so identical to yours that I dont even need to explain it! However, we broke up in February and we are now back together. Only no one knows. Not my family, not my friends. Again, this post is EXACTLY how I am feeling. I am so terrified to tell anyone (my family in particular) because they were so proud of me for taking a stand when I broke up with Shawn and for being a strong individual. I love Shawn, he’s my best friend and so much more and I still don’t know how to tell everyone about my big “secret”. I just wanted to say how much you inspire me. And I absolutely love the quote from your mom. Best of luck with EVERYTHING, and I am praying that I find my strength to do the same.
Kara Nicole
Well, since our relationships are the SAME (crazy huh?!) then I have to commend you for what you did. It isn’t easy doing the hard thing…and you are a very strong woman for that.
it also takes a strong woman to keep your heart open and go for what you want. If you want Shawn, and the issues that caused you to break up in the first place are gone, then go and love ya know?
I think you just need to be brave and tell your friends and family. Ask them to trust you. Tell them the ways he has proven himself. Let them know that you have thought this through and that it’s ok. Let them know you are being cautious, but optimistic. If they don’t agree with it, then that’s their problem. They will come around eventually, I promise.
(PS: I had a few friends who weren’t on board. regardless, they love and support me just the same).
What a beautiful post!! I am so glad you are happy and following YOUR heart! That’s what life truly is all about
. And I am in love with that quote from your mom and at the end, I borrowed it 
I hope shes okay wtih that! Again, awesome post as always!
Oh my gosh girl I am SO happy for you!! You’re doing what’s right for you and you should never ever (EVER!) worry about what others think!
This is yours and Sean’s life and your happiness is what’s most important!!
I wish you guys the best of luck! aww!
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You know when the breakup happened I told you how much I could relate because it sounded just like the relationship I had ended last August. I broke up for the same reasons as you: I was d-o-n-e. He repeatedly told me how much he regretted losing me, missed me, etc.. but the action was missing to show it. That’s huge. This made me get emotional. I’m soo happy for you and him and the changes and effort!!
Katie,
it’s been a while since we have talked. How are you? I hope all is well!
I’m happy for you! It sounds like it definitely worked out for the best!
Your mom is so smart. Best quote I’ve heard in a LONG time!
this is so inspiring. i love the quote!!!!!!! after my boyfriend and i broke up he begged me to get back together…flowers, suprises at work, etc. i agreed to hang out as friends and although we still aren’t officially back together, i agree that it’s very hard to not feel judged by others. you seem like you know exactly what you want which is the most important thing! congrats!
Because I am full of quotes lately:
“The heart wants what it wants. There’s no logic to these things. You meet someone and you fall in love and that’s that.”
-Woody Allen
In other words, you know I’ll ALWAYS support your decisions. And as if I didn’t suspect this already
xoxo
I LOVE this quote!!!
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I love your honesty, Lisa! I am really happy for you. People say all the time when break ups happen “if it’s meant to be, it will be.” So, this story is a good reminder of that. What is supposed to happen in life will happen, if you are open and let it happen. Your relationship with Sean sounds great and you sound like you’re in a fantastic place.
Yes, being open is key. I try to never let past experiences shut me down to life. Thanks for your kind comment!
Lisa! My sweet girl! This is beautiful! As always, thank you for being so open and honest! I know this was hard for you. I am a firm believer, that God has a reason for everything. That is for sure. I love how you are so happy and joyous with this decision! I feel in my heart that you made the right decision. I’m so glad that Sean has changed, i can tell in your writing that it is for real. I, too, hope you enjoy living by yourself for a while
Love you, pretty girl!
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I’m so happy for you Lisa! I had a sneaking suspicion this might be occurring. I hope that everything continues to be just as great, if not better. Don’t be worried about what others think. As long as you know that Sean has improved and that you both will grow in your relationship, that’s all that matters!
Truth: I had a hunch!
I’m just glad you are happy. I definitely think that people are capable of change. Unfortunately it often takes losing something important to make that change. And it’s the strong ones that do change, so I’d say Sean is a pretty strong guy and I think you are strong too. I’ve seen you go through amazing change as well since I started reading your blog a year ago!
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As long as you’re happy that’s all that matters, and if being with Sean makes you happy then so be it! I get a lot of crap from my family for being back with Darren and my friends don’t understand it, but only you can know what’s right for you.
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I’m happy for you. You have to make your decisions for yourself, not for the blog or other people. No one knows what goes on between the two of you except for the two of you. I’m glad you’re happy and that he is part of that. Big hugs!
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Good for you Lisa for following your heart and doing what is best for you! Who cares what people think, it only matters that you are living your life for you and you are happy!
Lisa, I am so happy for you. I am so happy that Sean was able to get his ish together not only for you two as a couple but for himself. It sounds like he’s a lot happier in life and I let looking back he’s very happy this happened. Sometimes guys just need a kick in the butt!
Thank you once again for being so open and honest. It’s genuinely why I keep coming back again and again to read your blog
XOXOX
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Your mom is a very smart woman
That quote couldn’t be more true. And I am so happy for you, I have lurked for a little while now and know that you wouldn’t be back with him if it wasn’t “right” and if things hadn’t changed. Don’t be scared of what others will think either, because they aren’t in the relationship – the two of you are. (Judging by the comments you have nothing to worry about though 
) As long as you are happy that is all that matters!
No judgement here. I think it’s fantastic when people can grow and sometimes it takes time apart to mature and find out what it is you’re missing in life.
My hubby and I broke up more than once because we weren’t on the same page, but matured in those times and found out what we meant to one another. And now, we’re married for 2 years!
Lisa you know what makes you happy and what is best for you — thank you for being honest! I’ve known a few couples who have broken up and gotten back together and they’ve stayed strong!
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I would loathe having to do this on any blog, so I admire you greatly for being willing to open up and say, “Hey, this is what I want and you should respect that.” If people don’t, umm, too bad! You’re a smart girl and no one can say you’re doing this on a whim. I wish you all the best.
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I’ve gotta say–love the title of your blog. so fun and creative! Thank you for awesome words.
I am SO happy that you are happy! Sometimes it takes a jolt like a breakup to make you realize how much you feel for someone. If you and Sean took time apart and found your way back to one another, it’s truly meant to be. It sounds as though he has not only told you that he has changed and appreciates you now, but he is also showing you, which is so key. You sound so healthy, Lisa–like you’re really being true to you and putting yourself first. When two people come into a relationship as equals and can feel comfortable saying exactly what they need and how they feel, that’s a strong foundation. Plus, all that the two of you have gone through together makes your bond that much stronger.
And as for people judging, forget ‘em! Only YOU know how to take care of YOU. You clearly trust yourself. That’s what’s most important.
Lisa, things happen for a reason. This is just one of those times. God made you both stronger and better for eachother. I beleive that we can try and try to change things on our own but it’s only when we Let God take control that things really change and stay that way. Just remember to keep doing the positive things you are doing and getting closer to God and you can’t ever go wrong. You are such a great person : )
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I knew it!
happy to hear you are happy! Who cares about what others think, only you know what’s best for you. Love your Mom’s quote too!
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this is a beautiful post and a real testiment to the fact that people CAN change! i had a similar experience with an ex, and while we are not together, i truly saw his change and respected him so much for internally realizing he had problems to address. yay you! so happy that YOU are happy!!
You are so lucky that the one person you always wished was the right one turned out to be. I’m so happy for you guys!
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I KNEW IT!
When you said you had a confession post… I knew this was coming, and I’m soso happy for you!
P.S. I’m totally quoting your mom. Love her for those words.
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i am really, really happy for you. you’re both beaming in those pictures; you can just feel the love and happiness there. i wish you guys the best of the best!!
You have to do what makes you happy. Just make sure that those changes are permanent and not temporary.
Having gone through a horrific breakup in November I truly understand the daily pain but I know that there is hope out there to find the right person. Maybe Sean is that right person for you and time/space were needed to figure that out.
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Remember to always follow your gut. Your gut told you to go and you did; your gut is saying give it a try and you are. You have no apologies. If it makes you happy go with it.
God doesn’t follow the game plan we have in our heads of how things should be but sometimes He just wants us to wait for the timing to be right.
I am always proud of you and support you no matter what. If Big makes you happy then be happy that is what friends do. Can we start calling Sean “Big” now?? Hee hee.
Big hugs and love you always. Can’t wait to see you – maybe we can double date!!
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Thank you Monica. When will you be back in town??
Hey Lisa!!
As soon as I saw the title, I just KNEW what it was going to be about! I had figured after a few little comments here and there on the blog! This is exactly what people need sometimes. It takes both people down to the raw realization that they are at a crossroads and need to really dig deep to see what they want and need in life! I had a similar situation and it really did wake up both my husband and I as to what we really wanted…and in the end, it was each other. We are both hard headed and stubborn, we build up the things that are bothering us and it really did almost cost us our marriage. We now have our little fights here and there, but we now know that we have to work to communicate, adn really try to put ourselves in the other’s shoes. Our relationship became SO much stronger after that horrible period!! I am proud of you for following your heart and doing what makes you happy and fulfilled. Blessings to you both!!
You are right. Sometimes you have to hit rock bottom before you can climb back up.
Hehe, I knew it! Don’t feel like you have to justify your personal decisions to your readers, because you definitely don’t. I’m glad things have worked out in the end for you two! Call me romantic, but I believe that if two persons belong to each other, they somehow find a way back to each other eventually.
No one ever REALLY understands a relationship other than the two people who are in it. True friends support you through thick and thin and just want to see you happy! =)
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I had a hunch, too!
Lisa, I don’t even know you except through reading your blog, but I seriously teared up reading this. I’m so happy for you and this just made my day! I am so so glad that God has been working in both you and Sean’s lives recently. It’s so apparent through your blog posts. And you shouldn’t feel sheepish for getting back together, because Sean fought HARD and pursued hard to get you back. I really respect that and I think it’s important in a relationship to have the guy pursue and fight for the relationship.
I wish you guys the best!
Cyndie,
Thank you. Your comment just made my day. I am glad it’s evident in my life how amazing God has been for me. He taught me patience, respect, and most importantly to turn to Him.
Taught Sean a thing or two as well.
Again, thank you.
Lisa! I am a huge proponent of following your heart and making decisions that feel right for you. No one knows your realationship better than you and Sean. If you two are happy, then that’s all that matters. I can feel your happiness through the screen! This post made my heart smile!
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Lisa, I admire your strengths, your willingness to be open, and not necessarily for “forgiving” Sean but for your big heart that allows you to see the positive changes in him. I also admire Sean for having the courage for taking the time to analyze his own issues and take action to better himself and the quality of his life. He seems like an incredible guy, and I wish the both of you all the happiness in the world. Congrats
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I love your comment. Thank you for the kind words.
I think it’s great that you’re so honest and upfront on your blog, and you need to do what’s right for you.
You look and sound SO HAPPY, and that is what is important.
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I”ve been waiting for this post! You are the only one who knows what’s best for you and I am happy to hear you are happy and continuing to do what feels right to you!
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I am so happy for you, Lisa!! I am going through a very similar situation right now, only the time that has passed since breaking up with my ex is 1.5 years. Being on my own allowed me to figure out who I want to be, without worrying about someone else and I am so thankful for that time. I believe everything will eventually fall into place as it should be, whether we end up together or not. For now, I am just living life to the fullest one day at a time.
A – I hate religion, but love God too.
B – I am so happy for the two of you. You have learned and grown which only builds the relationship. You know that you refuse to settle and I know that will never change. I hope you know you have my 100% support!
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I am so very happy for you, it sounds like you have truly made the best choices for YOU. Screw what anyone else might think.
The words from your Mom brought absolute tears to my eyes.
My mom is smiling right now from your comment. It’s one of my favorite letters from her—she’s a keeper.
I am happy for you! I believe that you know what is best for you. I’ve heard stories like this before. In fact, my parents broke up in college and my dad came crawling back just like Sean. Now they’re still happily married to this day
Happy for you! Great post.
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Hooray for your parents! what a great love story.
Only you know what’s truly best for you and what makes you happy. Even if friends, family, bloggers, etc have a hard time at first – everyone will come around – because ultimately they love you and just want to see you happy! You truly sound content in your decision. You’ve learned so much in the process and your relationship already sounds healthier and more fulfilling.
I’m really glad you were able to be honest. Play and love with all you can!
PS: Your Mom couldn’t have said it better!
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This is beautiful — and I know that you are an intelligent, brave, kind, wise woman who can make decisions for herself. It certainly doesn’t sound to me like you’re settling — you sound confident, like you know what you want and deserve. And *happy*. And that’s the kicker, really.
Nothing but love for you
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I had an inkling! I most certainly don’t judge you for getting back together with Sean. You were SO strong to leave him when the relationship wasn’t working for you. Now that it is, you need to do what’s right for you!
Those are some wise words your mom wrote. Continue to be true to yourself. I think one of the BIGGEST things you said is that you respect him. I highly recommend the book Love & Respect by Emerson Eggerichs
Thanks for the recommendation! I will check it out!
I also could sorta guess this was the news. And good for you!! I wouldn’t say you’re BACK with him because you both have grown, changed and moved *forward*. It sounds basically like a new guy and girl in a new relationship…but with a strong foundation of history and love – that’s wonderful! As you said: every girl deserves to have it all! And you do..no matter what that “all” is!
Ps. Your mom’s advice is the kind of thing I want to print out, underline, star, bold, color and enlarge to a huge font. Very wise indeed.
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Yes, great distinction. It often feels like a new relationship because he seems SO different at times.
I’m really happy for you and glad you finally wrote this post. From the couple of emails we exchanged, I hope that what I said sort of helped. It is MOST important for you to be true to you and all that came out through this post is how incredibly happy you are. I’m thrilled your followed your heart and even more happy that you are so comfortable with your decision that you can share it with everyone no matter what they think. Your mom is clearly a very wise woman!
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Yes! Your emails were wonderful and I loved hearing your thoughts. You were a big help in helping me process some of my thoughts. Thank you.
I have been reading your blog for a while now and I can relate to soo many of your life experiences and opinions on them, the break up being the one that stood out the most. My life-rocking breakup happened at roughly the same time as yours, but your outlook on it all and your honesty about how you were dealing, good or bad, really helped me. I dont know you, and I dont have a blog but knowing there was someone out there dealing with the same rollercoaster of emotions truly comforted me. Although my breakup doesnt have the same outcome, I am thrilled for you two!! You both deserve happiness and its so wonderful to hear that even though you were apart, you grew and thought about what you wanted to get out of life. I think it is beautiful that through it all you realized how strong your love really was for eachother. Thank you for always being open, honest and strong willed. Your hope is inspiring.
PS. This is a beautiful community and I hope you ALL realize how much you help people get through life’s challenging times.
Oh ANDDD…Im a Boston girl through and through and therefore a Celtics fan. After the bitterness wore off from our demise, I was rooting for the Thunder…wish it couldve happened for you!! Also wish I could watch the finals without looking at Lebrons arrogant ass! Theres always next year!!
You already know that I am so excited you are happy. You also know that you have been such an inspiration to me through my breakup and such a great friend. I have appreciated so much being able to read your thoughts then and hear them from you now. Because of you (both then and now), I know that happiness is waiting for me someday down the line, whether or not we get back together.
Just remember to be true to your heart, wherever that takes you, and you’ll end up where you’re meant to be!
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First, thanks for cheering for the Thunder! I am a Red Sox fan so I always tend to cheer for the Celtics as well.
Second–I am so glad you were able to find comfort in my words and what I was going through. It helps just knowing that someone else is right there with ya.
And good luck with you and your relationships–something amazing awaits
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I figured that was happening! Wow he does look like he’s lost quite a bit of weight!
Lisa, I am a newer reader but I have quickly become a fan of your blog and a big reason for that is your honesty. I got the sense that you were getting back together…and it sounds silly…but I was actually a bit nervous for you since I figured you would be writing this post at some point. Well done, congratulations, and I am so happy for you!!!
haha! Well I am glad you were nervous with me because I was a wreck about writing this post!
Ok, I’m crying at work now. I am so, so happy for you. I <3 happy endings.
Always listen to Mama, sister. She knows what she's talkin' about!!
~Les
Thanks Les!
I’m a big believer that people CAN change, it just has to happen from within and on their own terms – very happy for you both! <3
I had to comment on this. First off, I’m very happy for you both. It sounds like a lot of soul searching and honesty led you back to each other and that is a beautiful thing.
I had a relationship that was on and off (mostly on) for the last 6 years. We broke up and he moved out in November of 2009 and we didn’t speak for a very long time. I would receive the occasional email but I never responded. I, like you, was done. We had very little communication in the almost 12 months that followed, at least on my end, but he kept writing…and I kept reading. He told me of the changes he was making to better himself, told me of things going on in his life, told me that he loved me. It finally got to a point where I began communicating back and we also, became friends.
Fast forward to today…. Engaged! In mad love with my best friend! We both needed that year apart to work on ourselves. And, I can finally admit that we BOTH needed work.
Your post made me teary eyed! Congratulations to both of you!
I am so happy for you! I love hearing happy endings like that. Congratulations on the engagement!
Beautiful Lisa! If you are happy, we are happy. It’s that simple.
<3
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What a good and honest post! No one here is judging you (and if they are, we will all point our fingers and say HATER! hehe). Anyways, I was in your boat once upon a time. I just have a couple things to say from my own experience with rollercoaster relationships:
1. Only you know what is best for you. Go with your heart but always trust your gut feelings.
2. Be very cautious when getting back together. I had an ex that would break up with me, and once he saw I was back on my feet, he would do everything in his power to get me back, impress me, only for it to end up in the same place it was before. Trust me, the second breakup can be more painful than the first one.
I just want to wish you good luck, and i love reading your blog! You have so many great things going for you, and you deserve a great life companion
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Thankfully Sean does’nt seem like your ex in any way, BUT you are right–you do have to be cautious. I try to walk a fine line of being cautious but open.
This post is fabulous. Its genuine and honest and I love it. I wish you all the best!!
You posted something on FB the other day that made me think you guys just might be back together. I’m happy for you!
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Awesome- what great news! It’s your life and you are the only one living it. You have to do what’s right for you and what’s best for you. I’m so glad things are working out and both of you are better, stronger people because of what you have been through together even if you were apart for a while).
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I am happy you have found happiness.
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I had my suspisions – I’m so happy for you! I totally get why you would be scared to write about it, but I know you thought it through and made wise decisions.
It seems like things are going SO WELL for you right now and I’m so thrilled!!
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I figured you read! readers are smart, ya know?
Good for you, Lisa! I truly believe that things happen for a reason, and sometimes break ups really can change people and relationships. My boyfriend and I broke up after 5 years together in 2009. I had to move to my parents (I was 28!!) and I decided to go back to school. We got back together a few months later, and are now engaged. I truly believe we now have the relationship I always hoped we would have. Was it me who changed? Him?? We’ll never know, but I think we would never have reached the point we are now had we not spend time apart. Now we both know this is exactly where we want to be =) I wish you all the best-whatever happens.
Love this! Sometimes you just need to be apart to figure out what you want ya know?
you have such a powerful way of writing and it really draws you in. amazing words lisa. I would NEVER judge anyone who is going through of in a breakup…the truth is that no one knows the real realtionship besides the two people in it. I know that SATC episode and i do understand where carrie is coming from..speaking of which yeah im kinda seeing my ex…well kinda, i think ill send you an email…man relationships are hard! I am so happy for you two, and you seem BEYOND glowing…I have nothing more to say than if you are happy, i am happy
yes, send email please. i am curious
. hope all is well!
You seem so happy with this, and in such a good place. I’m happy for you!
It’s not anyone’s place to judge you for your choices, and it seems like oyu are making good ones!
i totally respect your decision because well, I’ve been there! I broke up with my (now) husband for 18 months when we were dating. It was the best thing that ever happened to us. I’m so happy for you and Sean – everyone deserves to be in love!
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Yeah, I thought of you and your story often throughout the recent events. Sometime breaking up (regardless of what you think will happen) is the best thing possible.
Very happy for you, Lisa! I love the quote from your mom – it’s so, so true. If only we could walk around with those words written on the back of our hands.
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I really respect you for this. My husband and I broke up and got back together three times before we got it right and we learned each time. Don’t think people can’t change or at least come around. Everyone falls in love in their own way.
The key to your comment is: you kept learning and growing! Good for you guys!
I’m nineteen and I want to say thank you for this post. It’s really inspiring to me to know that things change, to never say “never,” to not give up hope, that people change, and that it’s OK to trust people. I hope other people don’t judge you, but if they do, just know that you’ve really blessed and inspired me and your words have spoken to my life today, and I respect and look up to you for your decision. Thank you and God bless
Love, Keely
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Keely,
Yep. my mom is right. never say never and don’t say always. things are constantly changing. people can change–but it has to be because THEY want to. it has to come from within them and not from pressure from others. that’s exactly what I learned with Sean–he changed a bit when he realized he needed to. he did it for himself, and not for me.
and yes, its ok to trust people. I try to never let past experiences make my heart closed to the possibilities of life. Each situation is new, ya know.
HUGS!
<3 yeah you're so right. Ultimately God can change anyone!! I know I am not the same person I was. Sometimes it's just good to be reminded to give others the same grace instead of being afraid.
I loved your mom's advice!! She is very wise!!
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Girl all that matters is that you are happy! I went through the same thing. You are coming back into the relationship with fresh perspective and so much gratitude for eachother.
Like so many people said here, only you know the truth about your relationship and can judge what is best for yourself! Don’t worry about what readers might think, the only thing that matters is that both you and Sean are happy! This is such a powerful post and I appreciate how honest you are. You are so strong lady, I am very happy for you too
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Having been a person who has taken a step back from her relationship, only to realize that we were right for each other I know exactly what you’re going through. Sometimes you need to be apart to become your own person, and then you can realize who YOU are and what YOU’RE looking for. During your separation you grew into the self-confident woman you are, and Sean figured out what he really wants, and how to treat someone he cares about. I think your readers will support you because you both have grown so much from this. I’m so happy that YOU’RE happy Lisa
Your post actually kind of coincides with my post which is about taking a chance, because you never know what can happen! So happy for you love!!
xoxoxo
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loved your last post by the way. marcus was a sooner–horrible it ended that way.
Don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. I do that way too much and it keeps me from listening to myself and thinking about what I want. Life is so unpredictable and amazing – so happy for you
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I wish you both the best! I’m glad you are happy and thats what matters most!
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I’m happy for you, hun! Thanks for sharing and keeping it real
I wish all the best to you both.
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Lisa, this post put the biggest smile on my face! I am so excited for you and this *new* relationship. It sounds pretty spectacular and I wish you guys all the best!!
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I have nothing to say except that I’m so happy for you! I don’t think your readers expect you to share EVERYTHING that happens in your life…but the way you wrote this post and the information you shared made it all make sense! No judgements here, girl! I’m happy for you!
Wanna hear my truth? It’s like yours. I am back with my boyfriend, Brad, after going through some of the same stuff you did. And, you know who helped me realize what I really needed to do for MYSELF? My ex boyfriend. Yeah, my ex. But, he was right. I needed to listen to myself and not my mom, dad, brother, or sister. I knew my decision to break up with Brad was not right. I am not saying that we will be together forever, but it’s not time for it to be over yet. We spent quite a bit of time talking things over and being friends. Throughout that whole time, I was miserable. And, it wasn’t with the fact that I was alone and not with him. It was everything else in my life. I was irritable and annoyed with any little thing. I didn’t know what was wrong. I think I was mostly mad at myself, but didn’t really know it. It was kind of subconscious.
But, we’re back together, and we’ve both realized that we can’t be each others’ everything. We have to have our individual selves too. He told me, “I’ve always been the boyfriend who revolves his whole life around who I am dating. I don’t want to be that guy anymore.” This made me so happy because I don’t want that either. I want my alone time sometimes. I want to be able to hang out with friends. And, most importantly, I want to be strong enough to be my own person, but still be able to share my life with Brad.
Sorry for the long comment, but your situation reminds me of mine, and it makes me happy to see you happy.
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I remember you telling me that you got back together with him. Sounds like you did what was right for you and it ended up being a great decision. I am so glad you are happy!
Its great to see you following your heart! I loved the post.
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What an awesome post Lisa! I know you know what is right and wrong! You don’t have to prove ANYTHING to your readers because this is your life! I think going back to Sean is something you can handle at this point in your life, you seem so happy and full of love
Thanks again, for being so open, as usual
Love ya!
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Haha! I have been waiting or this post! Like you said before…I figured as much. Lisa…all that matters is that YOU are happy. No one (not me, ot any other blogger, not your mom, no one) knows what makes you happy but you. It takes strength to admit that circumstances changed that you want to go back into a relationship. The important thing here is that you didn’t go back because you were lonely or depressed. NO! You knew you could make it alone, knew you would be okay without Sean. You went back because he is making an effort to be the man you deserve and you love that man. I am happy that you’re happy. Don’t let anyone rob you of that happiness.
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I think you should feel as though you can write whatever you want on your blog. It’s your blog. I am so incredibly happy for you, Lisa! I think this is absolutely wonderful that you are back with Sean. I think you both needed the time to yourselves to figure out what you wanted to do with life and what you wanted from each other. I love the new prospective in your relationship. Best of luck to the two of you. I am so happy that you are happy. You deserve happiness
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I’m always impressed with how well you describe your feelings and emotions through your blog. I think you took all the right steps in getting back into this relationship and am so happy for you! It says SO much when a man fights for you the way Sean did, and it sounds to me like he’s made a lot of positive changes
. Sounds like the future holds a lot of great things the two of you.
Oh, and your mother’s advice was so spot-on. Mothers always know best, don’t they
Good for you!!!!
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We have all been in this type of a situation before. Sometimes people don’t realize what they had until it is gone. Sounds like he did. When you take a step out of the relationship sometimes it makes things very clear. It’s so easy to get caught up in the old relationship habits that we lose focus of what we like about the other person in the first place. I’m so glad that it all worked out and that you both grew a little (or a lot).
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So happy for you. You are following your instincts and your heart! You are a different person from just a few months ago you have grown so much and become so much stronger. Sending you lots of love and hugs XXOO
Thank you!!
That took guts to write. Good job! Some people do change and learn from mistakes. I did not take my ex back and here it is 5 years later we are good friends. Who knows if it would have worked out had I taken him back. I have no regrets even though I’m currently single and he has been in a 4yr relationship.
I love that you have no regrets. Obviously, you did what was right for you and you just keep moving forward.
good luck!
I feel like at this point I should write a post as a comment to this post, Lisa! Hahahaha.
First of all, not a single person in this world can live his or her life with a wall up protecting them from EMOTION. Love is simply something that cannot be fought. Sometimes, the saying, “If you him, let him go. If he loves you, he’ll be back” is what has to be remembered. You shouldn’t worry about what any of us think…your mom, me, your brothers, your best friend…you are who you are, you love who you love, and THAT is what should be good enough for anyone. Our jobs as friends and family is to love you, support you, and lift you up when you’re down. Sure, we get angry or we get frustrated when our friends or family go through something they shouldn’t HAVE to…but we can’t avoid problems now can we? Life has ups and downs, and if anyone judges you for doing what your heart and mind knows is best for YOU and YOUR happiness, then shame on them. Seriously. Don’t worry about judgment. There’s only one true Judge. God. People that really care about you, Lisa, are happy when YOU’RE happy. Regardless of what we think we would have done.
PS: I knew the whole time it’d work out.
Also, something you said struck me:
“Pride kept me from going back for a long time. I made SUCH a big deal about the breakup and how strong I was to my friends and on this blog. I was an independent woman. I stood up for myself and followed my gut. I did what was right. I wasn’t going back. Or so I thought.”
PRIDE? Honey, that wasn’t pride that kept you from going back!!!! I don’t believe that for a second!! PRIDE keeps people from, say, working a “blue collar” job just because they have an advanced degree. PRIDE keeps people from experiencing life. What kept you from going back right away was your protectiveness over your heart. Which, in my opinion, is NOT a bad thing. We’re all human. Man or woman, we’re looking for the person who will care for us the best they can. We’re all looking for the person we can trust with our lives. Am I right? It wasn’t pride keeping you from going back…you say it was the best decision to break up. You say it made your relationship stronger. If Sean hadn’t taken the time to think about what he needs in his life (eh hem, YOU) and if you HADN’T taken the time and hesitated on going back, then you wouldn’t have been as sure as you are now. You BOTH did what you had to. He took his time thinking and making sure he wanted to chase after you and you took your time making sure you could trust that he really, honestly, whole-heartedly meant what he was telling you.
THAT, my friend, is smart.
THAT, my friend, is what growing up is all about.
Trust me, PRIDE would not have given you the same outcome.
Love you.
oh melissa. I don’t even know how to respond. I would have to respond with another phone date if I was being honest. Speaking of those, I think we need to have one soon. Love you and miss you and love you een more.
All that matters is you are happY! And God defiantly has a plan for each of us.
I totally teared up reading this, Lisa! I’m glad you’re so happy, and am also glad that you are not going back to the same relationship you had, which obviously was NOT making you happy. Sounds like both you and Sean have made changes for the better. Wishing you both the best!
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Thank you!
How’s dental school?
Done for the year, thankfully. Just one more, and from what I hear it won’t be nearly as bad as 3rd year. Just wait and see – nursing school will fly by!
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I’m so glad it worked out for the best Lisa! Sometimes it just takes going through a break to realize what you really want or need and it sounds like things have definitely changed for the better. So happy for you!
I’m so glad you are together and happy. God works in mysterious ways and you never know where life will take you. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks as long as the two of you are happy!
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again, i love your honesty, lisa! i am happy for your happiness. i read a few of the comments and in response to one of them you said “it also takes a strong woman to keep your heart open and go for what you want.” i cannot agree more! it takes as much strength to step away from something as it does to keep your heart open and to reach out for your true desires. so many people allow external sources to influence their decisions. and i love the fact that you just listened to your heart, something many of us struggle with. i’m sending you positive vibes and hugs and all around good feelings. good luck, lisa!
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I think that’s such an important aspect of life–always keeping your heart open. I think you can miss out on so many amazing things if you don;t.
Hi Lisa! This is my first time commenting on your blog, but I’ve been reading probably from around the break up time. Your story really hit home with me-I went through a VERY SIMILAR situation in 2008 with my boyfriend.. we spent some time apart (it just wasn’t right anymore THEN), and have been back together now for 3 years!
We both grew so much in our time apart, and our relationship is in such a wonderful place today because of that time apart.. Everything happens for a reason! We both needed to grow as an INDIVIDUALS before we could grow as a couple.. and life has been AMAZING since!!
Never be worried what others think, especially when YOU are following YOUR heart.. I have found that those who judge (negatively) are not worth my time, and are usually reflecting their own insecurities. And that quote from your Mom-I Love it. What perfect words to carry through life.
I just wanted to say HI and how happy I truly am for you AND Sean. You both deserve nothing but happiness, and luckily, that is with each other
I love your blog, your way with words, and look forward to continuing reading!
Brooke,
Thank you for commenting and for your kind words! I always get excited when people come out of lurker status.
I am so glad to see and hear that your story ended up with a happy ending. Sounds like you have a beautiful relationship.
Lisa,
I wanted to share a little story with you regarding getting back together with ex’s. To make a loong story short, I was friends with a guy for three years, then we fell in love and stared dating, (turns out he was less than par in the boyfriend area although he had been a great friend), we had a lot of trials and tribulations but still ended up moving in together after a year of dating. He lost his job, was hiding notices from me, bounced checks, etc etc. I was paying for his rent, all bills, etc. I broke up with him and we weren’t exactly on good terms. (and my friends and family couldn’t have been more displeased with him). I was single, “happy”, a “strong woman who can make it through anything” and I did learn a LOT about myself during the year we were separated. When I randomly bumped into him again a year later he was living on his own, had really grown up and matured, and I was impressed. It took a lot of swallowing my pride to give him another chance but I did, and now we live together (very happily I might add) in north carolina. We moved down together as the next step in our relationship and we couldn’t be happier. My friends and family were soo skeptical, but its my life, and I knew it was the right thing to do, and I couldn’t be happier. Sometimes people just need a wake up call, or they simply need time to grow up on their own. I think our stories have a lot in common, and I’m happy you are happy and i love your story too
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As tough as it is you shouldn’t worry about what your readers, or any one else for that matter, will think about your decisions in life! You are the one in a million Lisa that knows you because you are you! I am happy for you, and for Sean, that you have been able to find what you need in life and as a result can be happy together. Enjoy your “new relationship” with your “new boyfriend”!!!
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I read this whole post and YES, I was suprised at the first sentence saying your back together. But it seems like he has truly changed. I AM SOO SO happy for you. Not because your neccessarily back together with him but because your happiness is beautiful! I am happy you are so content! You radiat your love with him and to life and I love that! I am so happy for ya’ll and I hope your love and his love never stops!!
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Lisa!
Yet again, we have something in common
I felt/feel the same way you did with my on-again, off-again relationship…Because when we’re on-again, I’ve always been afraid to “come out” about it because I’m afraid of being criticized or judged. Especially by the people closest to me. My guy is a good one. But he’s hurt me and everyone in my world knows it. That’s why it’s so tough to say that I’m with him and I’m happy.
I’m so happy for you. And proud of you, too. It was brave of you to be so open. But you’re already so wonderfully candid on your blog, I’d expect nothing less!
I’m really happy that you and Sean have found happiness. And that you’ve found the man of your dreams in him (God DOES have a way of surprising us and derailing our plans. But in the most amazing ways)
I was also really happy to see that you posted the fact that your happiness stems from many sources, not just your relationship. You do need to find your own bliss in life and it seems like you’ve found your bliss. In life. AND in love.
Wishing you more and more and more happiness. You deserve it!
xoxo
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Just three words!
YOU GO GIRL!!!
heck yeah! Thank you!
I’m catching up on your blog and just wanted to say that I’m really happy for you Lisa!
Whew! What a journey. I am so happy for you and Sean
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God knows how to work in mysterious ways, Lisa! I am incredibly overjoyed for you. It is so beautiful that the breakup made him realize just how wonderful of a person you are and that he truly, deeply cares about you. Sounds like things are on an incredible path & I couldn’t be happier for you.
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ooh Lisa, I am so happy for you!!!
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Lisa, I think it is wonderful that you have let Sean back into your life! I think you have shown great strength and grace and deserve the greatest of happiness! I think you guys are being very good about your “new” relationship and he sounds like he is amazing to you! I wish you guys the greatest love and I cannot wait to continue hearing about it!!!
I am so glad that your happy and I hope you continue to be so!
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I think you WERE strong by breaking up with him and that everyone deserves to change. Looks like you both changed and got stronger individually and that will make you stronger together.
I love what your mom said in her letter! Everyone’s life is their own and we are the only ones that know what is right for us! SO glad you are in a happy place!
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So happy that YOUR happy.
No matter WHAT happens.
We can’t really prepare can we? No – we can only do the best we can at that moment in time.
So live your moment in time.
I also recently wrote something similar to this…slightly
– just hitting the whole idea of opening up to readers or feeling comparisons in the blog world, judgements, etc…(i.e with my moving situation)…it’s tough man. It’s really tough.
But in the end – we are the only ones judging ourselves. And those who are judging us? Well…they really don’t matter to be honest…
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Aw, you are so in tune with yourself. It is so refreshing to see… truly, it is. So many girls would not allow themselves to just openly follow their hearts, and you ARE! You are such an inspiration, Lisa! I know that y’all have quite a journey ahead of you, but I know you will take it in stride and make sure that each day you are being fulfilled. This decision is right for you, and that is all that matters– no need to worry about pleasing others!
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I read every bit of this post & think it is beautiful!
My favorite part was this: We wrote a list of 20 things we loved about each other over the course of a week and we read them to each other one night. We do date night once a week and we take turns planning these nights out.
^that is AWESOME. I love how OPEN you two have become with one another. Communication is definitely key & it sounds like you two are really striving to become so open & honest to one another.
& your Mom’s quote is PERFECT! I might have to borrow it one day
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i have been out of the blogworld for a while and know this comment is late, but just wanted to say i am happy for you!!! you’re so beautiful inside and out and i know you made the choice that is right if it feels right
LISA!! oh, my… I have been out of the loop for a while, gone on vacation and gone from blogging a bit, but I never clear my reader, knowing I want to catch up with everyone eventually… I had a hunch about this, from reading something recently… then I saw Milla and yelped out loud. I thought maybe you just had visitation rights, but I did a “Sean” search (yep, that was me…)
and WOW.
I am still very proud of you for being true to yourself back then, and look what you were rewarded in return? You went through a very difficult time and came out happy! I think I said (at least thought) back then that nothing worth anything is ever easy… and now you have a genuine relationship with open communication, mutual respect and love!
I am so So SO happy for you, dear! <3
Thank you! Your genuine excitement for me jumps of the page and just put a big smile on my face!
Your mother is a wise woman, Lisa, and so are you. I’m proud of you for not settling for less than you deserve and I’m so happy that Sean stepped up to the plate to be that person. Actions speak louder than words and his actions show how much he cares about you and wants (needs) you in his life. Sometimes we have to walk through a storm to stand stronger on the other side. It looks like the break made each of you better people and you ended up with something far greater than you initially started with. I’m am extremely happy for you and wish you all of the best, ALWAYS. XO
I love this post… it reminds me so much of My Sean and me!
We actually broke up when I was a freshman in college for a few months, and it was such a hard time, but I honestly believe God was transforming both of us in ways we didn’t even realize we needed to change at that time! We got married 5 years later, and I look back and am actually thankful for that ‘growing’ time we had when we were apart… but in the end God knew we were meant to be, and I’m so glad we got back together…After all we were best friends, just like it looks like you and your Sean are! 
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