There’s been one thought that has been constantly streaming through my head the past few days…
“I live such a full life.”
As I mentioned in my presentation at HLS, it’s often easy to become envious of other’s lives. You see that your friends are getting engaged, moving to Hawaii, or getting that sweet cuddly puppy that you wish you could have. You can get so easily wrapped up in others lives, that you forget all the beauty right in front of you.
Plus, you’ve gotta remember that the majority of people only showcase the shiny happy things in their lives. They don’t tell you about their fears, struggles, or sadness. It’s easier not to. I always try to keep that in perspective when I begin to wonder why I feel that way sometimes, while others seem to always be content and happy.
All that being said, I live a full life.
I’ve gotten to really LIVE in this life. I have beautiful relationships with my friends and family, I have friends all across the country (yes, that’s all of you), I’ve been given amazing opportunities (like being able to dunk in a Mrs. Clause outfit at a NBA basketball game…who does that?!). I’ve experienced great joys and great pains and I love to share both of those emotions. It makes me happy to tell my story. It honestly fulfills me.
I’ve had some major changes in my life that I haven’t shared on my blog. I am always ready and willing to share and expose myself on my blog. I tend to write these big, long drawn out emotional posts regarding my thoughts as if this blog was my own personal diary.
Not this time friends. I don’t have the big, long drawn out emotional thoughts regarding this.
Even so, I feel that I should share something to my readers (and friends) so you know and understand what’s going on in my life. Many of you who went to HLS already know this, but I realized I had never mentioned it to the blog world.
Sean is no longer in my life.
I won’t be going into details about my thoughts because my thoughts are simple. Yes, Sean made many of the changes that I asked him to. Things were better than before—but what is better, exactly? Better still isn’t right. I constantly listen into the gut feeling that resides in my belly, and once again, it was screaming at me that something wasn’t right. Beyond the ever important gut feeling, there was simply some red flags that I couldn’t (and wouldn’t) look past.
And I listend this time. Right away. I didn’t wait around for it to linger—it has been lingering for much of our relationship, and when it rang loud and clear yet again–I took the bull by the horns and we parted ways. I simply listened to that inner voice that was pulling me in a certain direction and bravely obeyed it.
I’ve spoken ad nauseum about this relationship on the blog, and honestly, I don’t want to go in depth again. There is no in depth–it just simply is. You can find many of these posts easily in the “best of” section. Previously, I was in the midst of going through a lot of changes (regarding confidence, fear, change…you name it..I was probably going through it) and I used this blog as an outlet to pour all of my emotions into something. It worked and my readers and the written word were extremely helpful. Thankfully, I don’t need that outlet this time because it’s simply just not there. I know in the deepest parts of my heart that this is absolutely the right thing. That kind of assurance goes a very long way.
It’s for the best and I am very happy. Of course, it’s hard to part ways with someone that’s been in your life for so long. It’s strange not talking to him–but I see some very bright things in my future and I just keep my eyes and heart moving forward. There’s too many good things in my future (and present) to look back.
I know that he will find someone who is perfect for him–and I know that by being with him that I am robbing him of that opportunity. I sincerely hope that he finds that special lady.
Please: no pity and no sadness.
It’s the best thing for both parties involved.
Phew! Glad that’s out.
I’ve got a lot I want to cover on this blog since it’s been neglected recently:
- Healthy Living Summit (what a blast!)
- I’m moving and currently house hunting
- I started school again today
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Lisa, you are such a strong soul. I’m looking forward to the day when you post about meeting someone who is right for you. I know that day will come! Can’t wait to hear about your new upcoming adventures
Ah! I was reading this post and thinking – wow. this girl rocks. So glad that you shared this post – and that you are happy <– the most important thing, right?
Hope you had a good first day of school! Will check back later for more HLS recaps.
and now you know! the way things have transpired is good – no doubts, no thinking “I should have tried” (you did, and that is admirable!), no regrets.
your strength is beautiful, Lisa! your commitment to yourself and living a true life is awesome.
XXO big hugs to you!
Lisa you always seem to post just what I need to hear right when I need to hear it. There is someone in my life who I very much care bout and have learned so much from – but has an “expiration date ” in my mind. I just feel it is not right but I’m both scared to lose him and hurt him. I’ve been wondering what the right choice is for a bit now.
Thank you for sharing – Your choice needs more explanation. I really respect and admire your maturity with your decision. And I can’t freakin wait for the happiness and adventures in store for u!
Mel,
I know how scary this decision can be. I’ve been there…a few times..and trust me, you’ll get to the point where staying is a scarier option.
“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” I used to say this phrase to myself over and over the first time I went through what you are going through. It made me realize that it’s scarier to stay—sometimes you’ve gotta take that risk in order to get what you want and need out life.
I can’t tell you what the right or wrong choice is: just follow your gut, your heart. It won’t lead you astray. You feel the way you do for a reason–and often times–as much as you’d like to ignore that gut feeling or those thoughts you are having, you can’t. You may be able to for a couple of months, but in my experience, if you are simply ignoring them–they always come back.
Email me if you need anything!
Thanks Lisa! The words of advice/ offer of support means a lot to me. I know putting yourself out there for so many of us must be taxing in its own way but just wanted to let you know I appreciate it!! Things will definitely be OK and it’s great to hear from someone who has been there.
I thought this might be what your Tweets as of late were referring to. As long as it was the right decision for you that’s all that matters. You truly are a role-model for me Lisa! Thank you for sharing your life through your blog, I appreciate it more than I can express to you in words!
I have a friend that is unhappy in her relationship, and wants to get out, but keeps putting the other person ahead of her own needs. I don’t know what else I can possibly say to show her I support her decision and despite the hurt it may cause this other person she can’t keep the relationship going if she is unhappy. Any advice on how I can be there for her more than I believe I already am?
Amy—honestly, that’s all you can do. Let her know you are there for her, let her know your thoughts, and then let it be. People have to be able to make the decision for themselves–she will eventually get to a point where she is comfortable and ready to make that decision–and until then, there’s nothing more you can do. If she ever gets to that place, then she knows she can count on you to offer support.
Thank you for taking the time to respond to my comment. I was already thinking that I’ve done all I can for her but thought I could be missing something. It just breaks my heart to watch her struggle with her feelings and her fears and know I can’t do anything more to help.
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I am always SO so impressed with your your outlook on life-changing situations and ability to summarize them so eloquently in your posts
It was SUCH a pleasure to meet you this weekend. Your attitude towards life in general is just kind of AWESOME. And as you know, I can relate so much to this post and to the way you’re feeling right now.
I’m so happy for all of the great things that lie ahead and definitely applaud you for making such a difficult decision.
Again, so great meeting you and sharing laughs, frozen yogurt and reality television encounters
Jamie Jamie Jamie. You are my new best friend and I love you. And I love that raspy voice of yours. Sexy girl! And your Jewish men talk–priceless.
I havent written that long email yet, but it will be this week.
I just knew from your tweets that this is what you are dealing, and I am so proud of you for giving it a another go and listening to your gut.
No regrets
I had an inkling that’s what was going on from your tweets! Now you know, and you can look back with no regrets. You certainly gave it your all. You’ll find someone that is perfect for you, and when you do it will be awesome! Until that someone comes into your life it sounds like you are living it just fine as is and that’s what’s important – being enough for yourself.
Good for you Lisa. You gave it another shot, things were better, but you still knew what was right for you. That takes serious guts. If nothing else, you can rest easy knowing you tried and don’t have to wonder what if. I’m glad you’re happy, and I’m glad you did what was right for you.
I admire your courage and the trust you have in yourself and your instincts.
I look forward to reading all about your future loves and adventures
Letting go of something you are so used to is scary, but you are brave. You are doing what’s right for you, and that’s what matters. You’ve got a bright future in front of you!
As usual, you write so eloquently and honestly. Every experience is a lesson, right? The more you live through all of them, the better you know yourself.
I’m glad you made the right decision for yourself….
Once again, I am glad you did what is right for you and that you are very happy. That’s what matters most:)
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Lisa, my girl! I’m so proud of you! You are beautiful, inspiring, passionate, brave, and strong! You do you
So excited for all of these wonderful things coming up in your life! And you did what’s right for you, and your life will be even more amazing because of it! Love you!
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I haven’t been reading your stories for that long – or even knew the history of what you and Sean have gone through (maybe I should!), but listening to your inner voice and instincts will take you far!
I have friends who have been in your position and stayed in the relationship. Multiple affairs later and kids – they are still unhappily married. I cannot fathom WHY, except for fear. I wish they had your courage to realize that being true to yourself, even if being “alone”, is better than being unhappy.
Good luck with your next semester of nursing school!!
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You’ve got to listen to your gut and your heart. I’m glad you did what’s right for you. At least you’ll never wonder “what if” because you know. Good luck Lisa
I won’t pity you, but I will say that I am proud of you for sharing and going with your gut…it takes a lot of courage and strength and you’ve certainly got it.
I hope you had a BLAST at the HLS….I definitely want to attend a conference in the future and meet up!
Can’t wait to hear how things went this past weekend!!
no need to go into depth. Sharing your heart without details sometimes the best. We are here to listen you and what you WANT to share. I know your life is full of changes right now but God totally has you embracing them, thats beautiful!
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Love you. Miss you. Proud of you!
Expect a phone call from me later today.
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I’m so glad you were strong from the beginning and are mature enough to know what you want! You are a beautiful and strong girl and you will find your prince charming one day…and you are right, you know when it’s meant to be – you would never have to question your relationship!
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You’re such a strong girl and a good example. Most girls would have let the relationship linger. You made the right choice for you and that’s awesome!
Can’t wait to see what you write about next!!
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You are a strong lady! Good for you on deciding and acting on something that you felt was right for you!
Lisa, thank you so much for sharing what’s going on. It sounds like it definitely was the best decision for you but it’s great that you were able to give it another go so that you can move on knowing that you weren’t meant to be together.
You will find the perfect man for you and as you say you have a life full of so many other wonderful things!
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good luck house hunting! hope you find someplace super cute
and good luck with school!
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Wow, Lisa. I honestly did not see that coming. I am proud of you. Really proud. It takes a lot of courage to be your own person and even the person ending the relationship feels pain. I think you are such a star and I wish you nothing but really great times in your future.
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Good luck with everything, Lisa! You are such a strong woman and that is so admirable. You need to go with what you feel in your heart. You deserve to be happy! Stay strong!
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Lisa, I’ve been following your blog for a few months now, and you are seriously one of the most “true-to-your-feelings” type of girl. I love and admire your ability to trust yourself. This is something that I am struggling with right now– trusting myself. I’m in the middle of a lot of changes (just graduated college in May, moving away from my bf to pursue a job, parents getting divorce, etc) and all of it feels so overwhelming that it makes me unable to see how I really feel about my relationship sometimes. (Am I with him because I need him? Or am I with him because I love him?) I’m hoping that when I move, it will bring me more clarity. In the meantime, you are an inspiration and I’m glad that I am lucky enough to read your blog.
Thanks for the kind words. I appreciate it.
I think taking some time for yourself to get away from everything that’s overwhelming you will be a wonderful thing. Some time to reflect and sit with your thoughts sounds like what you need.
Good for you Lisa! I am happy for you and glad you feel good about making this decision! It sounds like it is the right one for you. You are a strong woman, so good luck in continuing to live your life to the fullest!
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Do what is best for you! I have been in your shoes and in the long run I am glad that I am no longer in that relationship. I met someone a million times better and I don’t have that sinking feeling in my stomach.
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I love this!! Especially the quote! It was so good to meet you this weekend! You don’t need me to tell you this b.c. you already have a strong head on your shoulders but you did the right thing! Good luck with moving and starting school!
Knowing when to move on or when to stay is one of the hardest things. Not just with relationships but with everything. It’s something I struggle with daily.
I’m proud of your for listening to your gut. For moving forward when you needed to.
And I’m excited you are moving closer to me!
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Even when you know a break-up is the right thing to do, it is really hard to take that big leap and cut the ties. I look back at every boyfriend I’ve ever had and think “I should have broken up with him (fill-in-the-blank) months earlier.” Hindsight is 20/20. Happy for you that you are moving on and are at peace with your decision.
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Lisa,
Your story and journey in regards to your relationship is somewhat similiar to mine. Unfortunately, I was married and will now soon be divorced. It’s taken me a long time, but I finally realized that staying was much harder than leaving. This is the right decision for me. Absolutely. When you posted that you were back with Sean I had this sinking feeling in my gut that you would end up in this place again, but I firmly believe that we each have to do things in our way and in our own time. I did the same thing. My family and friends were pushing for me to let him go much sooner than I was ready for. Now that I know I took my time and did it my way, I feel much more confident about the decision I made. I absolutely believe you will too. Congrats on loving and trusting yourself enough to do what’s best for you!
So glad that you were able to do what is right for you—and in YOUR time. That’s important.
It’s great that you recognized these feelings and stuck to them. You’ll meet someone awesome too!
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What an inspiring post, I admire your courage and strength!
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Sad, afterall. You looked so happy on your recent Belize trip. Maybe happy, but not really connected? Read just a little while ago that Jada and Will Smith have split up, an always cute couple who seem to have figured it out.
But we ‘outsiders’ never really understand what is going on in a relationship.
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I am good at being happy in whatever situation I am in. I was surrounded by friends, beautiful scenery, but those thoughts were there at the trip. They were present.
Go with the gut. ALWAYS, right?
After all, it’s one of the places we can connect with God.
And yes, the sooner the better. Kudos for your courage! It is easy to get comfortable and wait — harder to bite the bullet and git’ er done!
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I know we talked really briefly at the Market in Philly on Saturday, but from the short amount of info you gave me, I have to say I am really proud of you for doing whats best for you. Nothing is worse than feeling stuck and putting yourself behind someone else’s needs. So good for you
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I wish we would’ve been able to hang out more!
You know what I’m going through right now, and you continue to inspire me daily with how strong you are. SO glad we finally got to meet and hang out at HLS! You are awesome.
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Life is about to be so much better for you when the move happens!
I’ve been exactly where you are right now. When I broke up with Paul this past time, I knew it was the right thing. Although I did write a long drawn out post right after our break up, here I am two months later knowing that I made the absolute right decision and I couldn’t be happier. Things happen for a reason, to lead you down the path that you’re supposed to take even though it may not be clear at that time. I’m so happy that YOU’RE happy Lisa
That’s what’s most important.
Here’s a quote I have hanging in my cubicle that made me think of you:
xxxooo
“I think we like to complicate things when it’s really quite simple. Find what it is that makes you happy and who it is that makes you happy and you’re set. Promise.”
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Love the quote you have here! Definitely just stole it
Thanks!!
I loved it too!
Forward is the only place to go. I am soooooooo excited for what the future holds for you personally and professionially.
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GAH, Lisa.
as you know, it was YOUR original breakup post that give me the final guts to post mine just a few weeks ago. I’m so proud of you for putting yourself out there the way you do… only those who have done it know what one goes through to do so (uck).
that being said, I’m happy for you that you’re looking at this as a positive thing. you’re moving FORWARD, and you’re doing what you know will make you happy, and there can’t be any fault in that. ever.
“you must make your own happiness.” …I always say it, and I always will.
love to you, pretty chica! you’re gonna find mr. perfect soon.
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Lisa, when you first posted about your and Sean’s break up I commented that I was struggling in my own relationship and how your post made me feel more confident about the direction I needed to take. We broke up 4 months ago and I couldn’t be happier, I feel like a weight has been lifted. It was not easy, and it still gets hard sometimes, but I have no regrets. I love how positive you are, and I can’t wait to hear about all the awesome things to come in your life!
Ally, I am so glad that my post helped you make a decision—and that the decision turned out to be a good one!
Glad you were able to make the right decision for YOU! I have so many friends who are with the wrong guy or married to the wrong man bc they were scared they wouldn’t meet anyone else (someone MORE perfect for them). I hope you know that that is NOT true! When you meet the one, your gut will tell you it’s right. Keep going with it! You’re attidtude is inspiring!
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I absolutely know that the perfect guy is here for me. It’s a great feeling. Thank you for all the kind words!
Oh my god. We are literally in the SAME position. As HLS was approaching, I realized how full and beautiful and wonderful my life is — and realized that my summer boyfriend didn’t fit into that picture anymore. Instead of making me happy, he was taking away that happiness that I could be having otherwise. So I had to end things. HLS made me realize even more how lucky I am to be a part of such a beautiful, vibrant community — we are all so blessed, and all so beautiful. Rock on sista-frand! <3
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My gut instinct has never led me astray and I always rely on it even when I don’t want to. You have to look out for #1 no matter what becaue you are the only one that know whats best for you.
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As always, I admire your honesty and your ability to follow your heart! I know that you are making the best decisions for yourself right now and for your future. It will be fun to read along and see how things unfold for you. One day, you’ll be introducing us to the perfect man for you, but in the meantime, keep on living your life to the fullest! xo
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Lisa, thank you so much for sharing! I’m so happy that you listened to what your gut was telling you and that you are doing what is best for you! You are seriously so awesome. So many girls would just sit around and not take charge of their life. You are doing that, and it is truly inspirational! I can’t wait to hear about what is in store for you- I know that great things will be awaiting you in your life
. Love you!
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Lisa, your strength continually amazes me. It is definitely not easy to end a relationship, but when you know that you’re doing it for all the right reasons, the confidence that grows within you is abundant. I wish you the best. God has a plan for all of us, and every choice you make is the right one.
Take care!
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you go, you.
smart move going with your gut! and of course, time heals all. on to the next steps of life…enjoy every single moment of what is to come!!
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girl power! =)
It’s always tough to go through a big change, but sometimes it feels good to just accept it and move on, and you have such a great perspective on life in general. Can’t wait to see what fabulous thing comes your way next.
Love you!! So proud of you! Moving again? Did you only have a 6 month lease at your place? Any ideas where you are going? Roommates?
yes! moving yet again. and yes, a roommate! hoping to get a house—cant wait!
You are such a strong woman and should be so proud of yourself. I went through a similar situation with a boyfriend of 5 years whom I lived with. At the time it was the hardest thing I had ever done, but looking back, that led me to meet my husband just a few months later. Enjoy your journey!
I love love love that quote!
Im sure this was no easy task but it is always so important to stay true to yourself and your deams. I respect your honesty and wish you nothing but the best!
Lisa, you are so strong! I need to learn to be stronger, and to listen to my gut when it’s screaming at me that something isn’t right. And someday, if not already, Sean will appreciate that you let go. I know it’s a tough decision to make… I was on his end just a year ago, and I am now sooooooo happy that my ex had the balls to end it, because I was very much fooling myself into thinking I was happy, and in the end, that just made us both miserable!
You have so much amazing in your life and every reason to be happy!! And keep posting your inspiring quotes (on Twitter)… I know some of them have been JUST what I need to hear, so thank-ya! <3
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While I’m sure this decision was hard for you (really hard), I’m so impressed with how you’re handling things – you seem so very at peace with the outcome and that is huge. Signals change, but more importantly, it signals that this was absolutely the right decision for YOU. Nobody else. But you. Rock on sista.
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You must have one of the most strong connections with your intuition out there. You listen to it darn well and you should be so proud of yourself for doing what you know deep down is the best thing for you, no matter how hard that might be. The heart knows best and it seems yours knew exactly what needed to be done. It’s about time for some amazing NEW things for you in your life and I’m sure they’ll start popping up left, right and center, even more so than they already have been. Your strength is so admirable!
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Big hugs. I’m proud of you. Now go and do your thing, girl!
I have absolutely been in this place and it’s so incredibly hard to leave someone who you have a substantial past with, but sometimes you just know it isn’t right. But I WILL say, that going through this makes finding the right one SO amazing. Truthfully, being in the relationship I am now compared to the one I was in this time last year is truly night and day and I’m so thankful I went through the pain of ending the old one so I could get to the place I am now in pretty much every aspect of my life.
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Once again, I admire your honesty and strength. It takes a lot to face a gut feelings. Sometimes they’re the most obviously and yet the most hard to acknowledge. I have no doubt in my mind you will find the perfect person for you!
W-O-W is this coming at a right time in my life. I have been searching and searching for someone to relate to, to turn to for advice when you blog has been the closest thing to begin with. I wish we actually know each other, other than in the blog world. I FINALLY stood up the other day and yelled “I’m done!”. It was hard to do and I’m still in purgatory. He is begging for a chance to change. I partly want to give it to him since I have seen a difference but he doesn’t get it. I think I should re read this 5,000 more times for my own sake.
This is such a touching, heart-felt post and it really hit home with me.
I have just gone through an almost identical situation. I broke up with my long-term boyfriend of 3 years. He changed. He wanted me back. I let him back in because I thought those changes would be enough. But I still felt like the relationship still wasn’t right. So I ended it.
While I felt incredibly bad, I also knew I was doing exactly what was right for me. I don’t believe that people can truly change their fundamental characters, and you shouldn’t have to change someone to make you happy. I’m glad you followed your heart and I know good things are coming your/our way!
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Lisa I can truly tell that you have gained so much self confidence through these ups and downs with and without sean. When I broke up with my Ex I was devasted…but after a few weeks, I felt so empowered and finally found LOVE for myself which above all is the most important thing. I know I desereved to be treated better, and he was not giving me everything I deserved in the least. If you have a gut feeling you better go with it! thats all I have to say. You ROCK and I see so many positive things for your future
You rock girl. It’s amazing to think about how strong Of a lady you are. Glad your future is looking bright!
No sadness here just a you go girl! Way to follow your gut and know that you are strong enough to handle whatever is thrown your way!! I love the quote you posted. That might need to be hung on my bathroom mirror!
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You’re smart for listening to your gut and heart…it’s never wrong! As always, you’re honest and brave for sharing, and I’m glad you did.
I’m also SO glad I got to meet you this weekend, girl!!
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Already knew about this so you know I’m happy you are doing what’s best for you. And I love you. And I can’t wait for you to visit!!
And I’m as obsessed with “Eat Real Foods” as you are:)
I am a newer reader of your blog, but I have quickly come to admire your strength of mind and your courage. Too many people we love stay in life situations that may not be explicitly BAD, yet are far from explicitly GOOD — for their minds, their wellbeing, the hopes, their dreams, their vision of who they want to be, etc.
Too often, friends judge (sometimes unconsciously, sometimes not) because it’s not “that bad”. But it’s not “that good” either.
You have to be your own person and you have to decide what that means for you. So bravo for being you, and bravo for having the courage to alter your course when that is what you need.
PS, this will sound perhaps facetious, but it’s a line I use on my IRL best friends when they are in “decision turmoil”: it’s a line from the movie, “Boogie Nights”. I know, I know. But it’s a thing I have. Anyway, the quote is this: “Wear what you dig, baby. Wear what you dig.”
I can imagine you may get some less positive “feedback” because too often, we humans think we have some right in our lives to chime in about how other humans are living theirs. Logic, very often, need not apply. And emotion is personal. Nobody else can live your emotion, but plenty of people will try to tell you how you SHOULD based on how they think they WOULD.
As for me, I think you set a positive example of following both your heart and your mind and deciding consciously what you want. And this means if later on you decide this person is someone you want back in your life, no judgment. And if this person will never be again in your life, no judgment there either.
It is YOUR life. Wear what you dig.
You have such a beautiful outlook and are a very stong lady! I have found myself in a very similar situation and this post was very inspiring and exactly what I needed to hear (well more read) today. Thank you Lisa!
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Beautiful post Lisa. I agree, it’s the little things, the small changes we make, being aware of ourselves, and knowing what’s important that truly entail “living a full life”. I feel like I do too.
I’m sorry about you and Sean, but you’ve been so reflective through this whole relationship and it seems like you took a lot of good stuff out of it, so that makes me happy for you at the same time.
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You are so strong! I know you can handle your full busy life and ALL of the challenges involved.
Allie recently posted..Schedule !
Thank you Allie!
You know we love you always and support you on whatever.
So glad you listened to your gut – it has no hidden agendas.
Always here for you. BIG HUGS!
Monica recently posted..Weigh in
Thank you Monica! how’s life in Nashville?
Lisa – I love how open and honest you are. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two years, and reading your original story about Sean is what allowed me to share my story on my own blog! It is a weird thing when there is a big (personal) life change and you don’t know whether to mention it on your blog or not. I remembered how much I appreciated your openness, so I decided that I should do the same. As a result, my readers have been so sweet and encouraging to me in the new phase of life. I know there are great things out there waiting for YOU!
Laura @ Meet Virginia recently posted..A Sweet Ending.
Lisa – I’m so proud of you for listening to your gut and going with it, as hard as I’m sure the decision was. You’re right that by sticking around it won’t be better for either of you in the long run. It would only be delaying the inevitable and wasting both of your time. You have so many positive things going on in your life, includingfollowing your dream of becoming a nurse and moving to a new home. One day that perfect, special someone will round everything out. Here’s to following your heart and moving on to a new phase in your life! I’m proud of you , girl! XO
Kim @ Imperfectly Perfect recently posted..What Would You Do?
Thank you Kim! love ya!
So, when you guys initially broke up, it was my first time reading your site and let me tell you…that post blew me away. Your honesty and truth really hit home to me and it took my breath away. I won’t say say anthing cliche here about moving on and it gets better, but I will say that even though I don’t know you and have never commented before…I’m proud of you and wish you the best.
first time commenter over here, but I had to speak up and say that I think this post is amazing – powerful and poignant. thank you for sharing your feelings, opening up your life in this way, and really touching people (like me!) with your words…and wishing all the very very best!
Thank you! Comments like this are exactly why I love blogging.
Amen, sister. You know what’s best for you! I’m excited to hear about what the future will bring for you!
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